Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

From dinosaur cartilage to gluten-free unicorn tears, the wellness industry has gone off the rails. Drawing from viral content creator Caitlin Murray's (@BigTimeAdulting) hilarious take on modern health advice, we unpack why women's health has become so complicated and offer practical alternatives to the supplement-heavy, social-media-driven wellness culture. Quote of the Episode: "The best health plan is the one that you can maintain long term." Key Insights: Modern wellness culture creates overwhelming and often contradictory advice Social media amplifies health anxiety and pressure The wellness industrial complex keeps adding complexity and cost Simple, sustainable changes often work better than extreme measures There's a difference between purchasing progress and earning it Family involvement can make healthy choices more sustainable Most health improvements require either time or money investment The basics (movement, whole foods, sleep) still matter most Resources Mentioned: BigTimeAdulting (Caitlin

Use HAPPY at g-mee.com for a $40 discount on G-Mee Connect Pro (down from $189 to $149). Why don’t tech executives let their own children use social media? Can teenagers appreciate strict phone boundaries? If you're fighting screen time battles with your kids, this episode offers hope that your children will eventually thank you for protecting them from unrestricted tech access. Quote of the Episode: "Nobody ever says, 'That was the best weekend ever, just love that! We should do that more often—stare at our phones and ignore each other.'" - Justin Coulson Key Points: Meta and other tech platforms are "terrified" of proposed legislation restricting youth access. Tech executives often ban their own children from using the products they create. The shift from play-based to screen-based childhood is rewiring children's brains. Building trust and supporting autonomy helps children understand and accept boundaries. Regular conversations about technology use are essential for family relationships.

Your child is hesitant about sports, the coach wants to help, and you're caught in the middle—what now? Today’s tricky question tackles the complex dynamics of youth sports anxiety from both the coach's and parent's perspective.  Quote of the Episode: "Your child signed up for it. Your child wants to play the sport. It's their experience, so let them have that experience." Key Insights: Parent involvement can often increase rather than decrease child anxiety. Individual acknowledgement by name creates belonging and confidence. Reframing anxiety can help children approach challenges differently. Trust between parents and coaches is essential for child development. The "uphill" moments in sports build character and resilience. Minimising children's feelings about anxiety is counterproductive. The three E's approach: Explore, Explain, Empower. Action Steps for Coaches: Minimise parent involvement during practice/training. Get curious about individual children and their concer

Want to help your child manage big emotions? Start by understanding what emotional regulation really means. In this episode, we unpack why suppressing emotions isn't always bad, how regulation develops from age three onwards, and why parents might need to work on their own regulation first. Plus, discover three practical strategies that actually work—no more ineffective "just calm down" responses. Whether you're dealing with gaming meltdowns or homework frustrations, these solutions will transform how you handle emotional moments. Quote of the Episode: "They don't need to be reprimanded. They need to be understanded." Key Insights: Emotional regulation means expressing or suppressing emotions appropriately for the context. Self-regulation begins developing at age 3 and stabilises around age 9. Parents often struggle with their own regulation while expecting it from their children. Better regulation leads to improved academic performance, relationships, and life outcomes. Supporting rather than

New research shows that simple parent-led interventions can reduce gaming disorder and smartphone addiction in children by up to 60% in just six weeks. In this episode, clinician and researcher Dr Brad Marshall breaks down exactly what parents can do to help their children develop healthier relationships with technology, backed by groundbreaking new research from Macquarie University. Key Points: About 10% of Australian teens are experiencing problematic screen use and addiction. A study of 689 families revealed significant improvements in screen addiction through parent-led interventions. 60% of children with gaming disorder showed improvement after 6 weeks. 32% of children with smartphone addiction showed improvement after 6 weeks. Five key strategies were identified, with WiFi management being among the most effective. Quote of the Episode: "Parents can have a huge impact on how their kids do stuff online... even without any direct therapeutic intervention." Key Insights: Hardware-level contr

Sometimes the most carefully crafted family schedules fall apart spectacularly - and that's perfectly normal. Today, we dive into what happens when the perfect plan meets reality, complete with school transitions, homeschool meltdowns, and endless interruptions. Plus, discover why investing in your relationship might be the secret weapon for weathering family chaos. This is real parenting, unfiltered and unvarnished. Quote of the Episode: "Sometimes no matter how well we think we've got everything put together, sometimes it just doesn't work. And it doesn't mean you've done something wrong. It just means that this was a hard week." Key Insights: Even the most meticulously planned schedules can fall apart when school routines change Major transitions (like switching from homeschool to traditional school) affect the whole family system Fresh starts are valuable opportunities to reset and try again Relationship investment between parents strengthens the whole family Couples can be completely different yet choos

Less is more when it comes to kids' parties. We tackle the thorny issue of birthday party politics in the modern age, from managing invite lists to handling the heartache when your child misses out. Discover why Gen Alpha parties have become more complicated than ever, and learn practical strategies for both hosting and handling party-related disappointments. Plus, find out why McDonald's parties in railway carriages aren't always the answer (just ask Justin!). Quote of the Episode: "Being invited to a birthday party is a privilege, and we should approach it with sensitivity because not everybody gets an invite." Key Insights: Smaller parties often create less social tension than large-scale events Modern party politics are particularly challenging for Gen Alpha children The more people invited, the more others expect to be included Classroom distribution of invitations can create unnecessary drama Digital invitations and teacher assistance can help maintain discretion When hosting, clear communication about

Parents have been fighting the wrong battle in the screen time wars—and the most effective solution isn't about apps, contracts, or consequences at all. In this episode, Dr. Brad Marshall shares the surprisingly simple hardware-level intervention that reduced gaming disorder by 60% in just six weeks. Key Points: Managing home WiFi with set limits proved most effective in reducing screen addiction. Phone-level controls are second most effective but can be circumvented. Bedtime WiFi boundaries show significant impact. Traditional methods like contracts and consequences showed less effectiveness. Hardware-level solutions outperform software controls. Quote of the Episode: "What fuels all of these devices and their persuasive design and their addictive nature and their dopamine is the WiFi. We know that for a fact." Key Insights: Start with the strictest parameters when first giving devices. Focus on infrastructure control rather than behaviour management. Device-specific controls allow age-appropriate f

Force creates resistance—especially with teenagers. In this essential episode, we reveal why your teen's silence might actually be normal and share proven strategies to rebuild connection without pushing them away. From the surprising effectiveness of parallel activities to the power of perfect timing, you'll discover how to create spaces where real conversations can naturally emerge. Plus, learn why traditional advice about "getting them to open up" might be exactly what's keeping them closed off. Quote of the Episode: "People say parenting is the hardest job in the world. It's not. Growing up is." - From Harry Potter and the Cursed Child Key Insights: By age 13, parents have completed 75-80% of their hands-on parenting. Teen emotional overwhelm can lead to communication shutdown. Side-by-side activities often work better than face-to-face conversations. Written communication can be an effective alternative for some teens. High emotions equal low intelligence—timing matters for importan

When Your Child is Bullied: The Five Steps That Could Save Your ChildWith Australian students among the most bullied in the world and recent tragedies highlighting the devastating consequences, discover the research-backed five-step response plan that empowers children and gives parents practical tools to address bullying before it escalates. Key Points: 70% of Australian kids aged 12-13 experience bullying Australia leads Western nations in bullying incidents Clear definition of what constitutes actual bullying Status and power dynamics drive bullying behaviour. Five-step response plan for parents Quote of the Episode: "Trauma is not a result of the events that happen to you. It's a result of how you process those events." Key Insights: Difference between conflict and true bullying Four types of bullying (physical, verbal, social, cyber) High-status kids are more likely to bully than low-status Importance of documentation and proper reporting Role of mindset in managing bullying impact

Want better bedtime routines? Start with wake-up time. In this eye-opening episode, we reveal why your morning routine is the secret weapon for achieving peaceful nights. Backed by fascinating neuroscience from Stanford's Andrew Huberman and real-world success stories, you'll discover how morning sunlight triggers a cascade of sleep-friendly hormones that can transform your family's entire day-night cycle. Plus, learn why letting your teens sleep in might actually be sabotaging their sleep schedule and how early risers show up to 23% better performance in morning classes. Quote of the Episode: "Exposure to morning sunlight triggers a cascade of hormones that regulate the entire day-night cycle." Key Insights: Your wake-up time sets your body's internal stopwatch for the entire day Teenagers naturally produce melatonin later than adults but still need 9-10 hours of sleep Weekend sleep-ins create a "mini jet-lag" effect that makes Monday mornings harder Morning sunlight exposure activates melanopsin-containing

When the afternoon chaos of activities, homework, and commitments leaves everyone exhausted and frustrated, it's not your organisational skills that need work—it's your approach. Justin and Kylie reveal their game-changing strategy for transforming family schedules from overwhelming to manageable, including the one question that changes everything: "Does the schedule serve you, or do you serve the schedule?" Key Points: Why traditional scheduling often fails families The importance of regular family meetings How to experiment with different routines When and why to scale back activities The value of involving children in schedule decisions Quote of the Episode: "Does the schedule serve you, or do you serve the schedule?" - Justin Coulson Key Insights: Life is a series of experiments Children often recognise when they're overcommitted Family meetings give everyone a voice Routines need regular adjustment The best schedule is unique to each family Resources Mentioned: "Rethi

Forget sticker charts and pocket money—the key to getting kids to help around the house isn't about rewards or punishments. Discover why making contribution fun transforms resistance into enthusiasm, and learn the simple system that's getting kids excited about helping at home. Key Points: Traditional chore charts often create resistance Linking chores to pocket money typically backfires Making contribution fun transforms participation Togetherness is the key to successful engagement Timing and clear endpoints matter  Quote of the Episode: "Our kids don't want to feel like our slaves... but they do need to contribute and participate in making the house function and work." Key Insights: People tend to overestimate their own contributions while underestimating others' Forced contribution creates resistance Music dramatically changes the experience of helping Clear time limits increase participation Autonomy in choosing how to contribute matters Resources Mentioned: 10-minute

New research reveals that the "convenient" pre-packaged school lunches are actually the most expensive option - and the least healthy. Discover the simple menu system that saves money, improves nutrition, and gets kids excited about their school lunches. Key Points: 90% of Australian kids take packed lunches to school Average lunch box costs $4.50 Pre-packaged foods cost more than fresh options 40% of kids' lunches are filled with pricier, less healthy options Menu system eliminates daily decision fatigue Quote of the Episode: "Our family has single-handedly kept a wheat farmer's business going for the last 20 plus years with all those lunches, that probably half of which ended up in the bin." Key Insights: Creating a menu system reduces waste and costs Getting kids involved increases likelihood of eating Laminated menus with checkboxes make planning easy Budget constraints can be framed as opportunity for change Advanced planning eliminates morning stress Resources Mentioned: Flinde

  The School Morning Hack That Changes Everything: A Slice of Advice on Getting out the Door Stress FreeThe secret to peaceful school mornings isn't what you do in the morning at all. Discover the simple evening ritual that transforms chaotic school mornings into manageable moments of connection, and why this one change makes all the difference. Key Points: The critical importance of evening preparation Why decision-making is the biggest morning time-waster How to implement the "hotel menu" system for meals The value of creating margin in your morning Why rushing signals the wrong message to children Quote of the Episode: "Love is spelled T-I-M-E, but if that's how you spell love, what does 'hurry up' spell to a child?" Key Insights: Morning chaos often stems from too many decisions being made in the moment The hotel continental breakfast menu system eliminates morning food decisions Creating margin allows for meaningful connection and reduces anxiety Evening preparation includes pare

Justin interviews Pulitzer Prize winner Charles Duhigg about his groundbreaking book "Super Communicators." Discover the science behind meaningful family conversations and learn practical strategies to transform how you connect with your children and partner. Key Points: Understanding the three types of conversations: practical, emotional, and social Why fixing problems isn't always the answer How our brains sync during meaningful conversations The power of deep questions versus shallow ones Why family interruptions might be healthy Quote of the Episode: "We tend to remember the conversations that are connection, as opposed to just information exchange." - Charles Duhigg Key Insights: The importance of matching conversation types (practical vs. emotional) How to transform common questions into deeper connections The value of perspective getting over perspective taking Why acknowledging awkwardness helps difficult conversations Best Questions Shared: "What was the most surprising thing that happened today

One-on-one time transforms parent-child relationships, but finding that time can seem impossible. Discover the revolutionary monthly date system that's helping parents create deeper connections with each child—and why being truly present matters more than what you actually do together. Key Points: Monthly one-on-one dates based on birth date Importance of intentional planning vs spontaneous moments Value of side-by-side conversations Impact of being fully present vs autopilot parenting How structured time leads to deeper conversations Quote of the Episode: "The definition of love is bearing witness to one another's lives." Key Insights: Advance planning makes experiences more meaningful Side-by-side activities encourage natural conversation Removing distractions deepens connection Multiple possible futures reduce anxiety about paths Intentional time creates space for vulnerable conversations Resources Mentioned: Laura King's research on "best possible future self" Monthly birthday date system conce

Why Your Kids Should Risk Breaking Their Arm Today Discover why letting your kids take physical risks - even ones that could land them in the doctor's office - might be exactly what they need for healthy development.   Key Points: Physical challenges help children develop resilience Many schools have removed risky play equipment like monkey bars Stanford research shows parent reactions shape children's mindsets Developmentally appropriate risk is essential for growth Modern "safetyism" may be harming children's development   Quote of the Episode: "When we treat all adversity as inherently negative, we do a tremendous disservice to our children and their ability to develop adaptive coping mechanisms." Key Insights: Babies look to parents' facial expressions to gauge danger Physical challenges often lead to better academic and social outcomes The difference between harmful trauma and beneficial stress How "safetyism" creates more fearful children The importance of scaffolding risk appropriately &n

Understanding the right type of conversation can transform family communication and deepen connections with our children. Justin and Kylie explore insights from Pulitzer Prize winner Charles Duhigg's book "Super Communicators". Key Points: Understanding the three types of conversations: practical, emotional, and social Why fixing problems isn't always what our children need How to identify which conversation your child wants to have The importance of asking "Why am I talking?" (WAIT) When connection matters more than correction Quote of the Episode: "We tend to remember the conversations that are connection as opposed to just information exchange." - Charles Duhigg Key Insights: Most memorable conversations are ones where children do the talking Parents often default to "fix-it" mode when children need emotional support Simple questions can reveal what type of conversation is needed The power of asking "How can I help?" or "What do you need?" Personal Stories Shared: Justin's "professor moment" with his

How to support children through their fears and phobias - whether it's buttons, beards, or anything in between - without escalating their anxiety. Key Points: Children's fears, no matter how irrational they seem, are genuinely frightening to them Trying to have rational conversations with emotional children is counterproductive Telling children they have "no choice" increases anxiety rather than reducing it Creating emotional safety must come before addressing the fear itself Gentle exposure combined with patience is more effective than forced confrontation Quote of the Episode: "Your child is not being difficult. He is experiencing a difficulty. There's a really big difference there." Key Insights: The importance of validating feelings before problem-solving Why social normalisation often helps naturally reduce fears How creating distance between stimulus and response can help The value of giving children agency in finding solutions Why parent-led solutions are often sufficient without therapy Resources