Sinopsis
Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.
Episodios
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Episode 165 - Re-Release Primal Panic
12/09/2025 Duración: 22minThis week I'm re-sharing Episode 104 on Primal Panic because it's one of the most popular episodes and you might have missed it!That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with y
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Episode 164 - Too Much Labour
29/08/2025 Duración: 30minStop carrying the entire mental load of your relationship while your partner coasts on your effort.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your q
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Episode 163 - People Pleasing in Polyamory
15/08/2025 Duración: 41minAre you people pleasing to the point where you think you've over corrected but really, you're under-correcting?That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or r
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Episode 162 - Setting Real Boundaries in Polyamory
01/08/2025 Duración: 25minYou should never have to ask, 'What if someone crosses my boundary?' Because the boundary, in and of itself, by definition, should include what you will do if it is crossed.Why your brain processes relationship conflicts at night and how to break the cycle without exhausting your partner.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.This episode also features an ad for a Polyamory Retreat in Spain in September hosted by Dedeker Winston and Orit Krug. For more information about the retreat visit multiamory.com/retreatThat's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode
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Episode 161 - Bedtime Relationship Rumination
18/07/2025 Duración: 25minWhy your brain processes relationship conflicts at night and how to break the cycle without exhausting your partner.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.This episode also features an ad for a Polyamory Retreat in Spain in September hosted by Dedeker Winston and Orit Krug. For more information about the retreat visit multiamory.com/retreatThat's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://bet
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Episode 160 - What A Boundary Is
27/06/2025 Duración: 16minHow many times should you let someone violate your boundaries and can you rebuild trust after?That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on
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Episode 159 - No Contact Metamour
13/06/2025 Duración: 12minWhen you’re no contact with a nesting metamour, can you make a relationship with your shared partner work?That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on
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Episode 158 - Hierarchies and Polyamory
30/05/2025 Duración: 38minWhen your primary partner only wants to have threesomes other partners and not you, it may not be a good sign.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on
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Episode 157 - Solo Not Celibate
16/05/2025 Duración: 22minTrying polyamory with a solo polyam person could be potentially difficult for a monogamous person.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonog
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Episode 156 - Polyamory Obsessed
02/05/2025 Duración: 24minHow do you stop becoming just a little bit obsessed with reading about polyamory?That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
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Episode 155 - Re-Release Hierarchies and Ethics
18/04/2025 Duración: 28minPrioritising a long term marriage is unethical to many people, but what do you if that’s genuinely what you want to do?That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhe
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Episode 154 - Sharing Home With A Metamour
04/04/2025 Duración: 18minFeeling like you have to make yourself scarce in your own home can get old very quickly.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
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Episode 153 - Childhood Trauma and Polyamory
21/03/2025 Duración: 35minHow long should a partner wait for you to work through childhood trauma until you are “ready” for polyamory?That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
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Episode 152 - Reddit Ashes
07/03/2025 Duración: 12minResponding to the r/relationships question: My boyfriend wouldn't go with me to spread my father's ashes That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
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Episode 151 - Cold Metamour
21/02/2025 Duración: 22minIf your metamour is a little cold to you, when do you decide to tell your partner? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
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Episode 150 - Q&A
31/01/2025 Duración: 43minQuestions for this week's Q&A episode include: - Any tips for long distance polyamory? - How do you deal with guilt over having a stronger romantic connection with one partner? - Could space away from a partner calm down polyamory related anxiety attacks? - How to deal with conflict of NRE when your partner takes so long to process feelings? - Any tips for people opening up after eight y ears together? How to deprogram systemic monogamy? - Why is there such a negative sentiment/stigma towards polyamory? Why all of the disapproval? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Looking for a way to better connect with your emotions? Dedeker Winston of the Multiamory podcast and dance/movement therapist Orit Krug are leading a somatic therapy retreat for polyamorous folks in Crete from March 31st to April 3rd, 2025. Sign up today! This episode is sponsored by Bet
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Episode 149 - Mono/Poly Relationships
17/01/2025 Duración: 30minEveryone always wonders if it is possible to be monogamous to polyamorous person successfully. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Looking for a way to better connect with your emotions? Dedeker Winston of the Multiamory podcast and dance/movement therapist Orit Krug are leading a somatic therapy retreat for polyamorous folks in Crete from March 31st to April 3rd, 2025. Sign up today! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com
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Episode 148 - Children from Flings
03/01/2025 Duración: 21minWhen a fling results in a different parent of your child, it might be difficult to know whether or not to involve the biological parent. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
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Episode 147 - Dating Monogamous People
20/12/2024 Duración: 25minYour partner doesn’t seem to mind dating monogamous people but you feel it’s not right. Can you actually change it? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
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Episode 146 - Polyamory to Avoid Breaking Up
06/12/2024 Duración: 25minIs it a good idea to try polyamory just to avoid breaking up with your partner and are you insecure and traumatised if you're struggling to make it work? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact