Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

They talk a lot about culture in schools/education.   What’s really driving teacher burnout, student disengagement, and poor behaviour in schools? In this compelling conversation, I’m joined by Adam Voigt—former principal, education thought leader, and founder of Real Schools—to explore why culture, not curriculum, is the true heart of great education. From phone bans to shocking increases in sexualised behaviour, we unpack the most pressing issues in today’s classrooms—and how families can play a vital role in shaping school culture for the better. KEY POINTS: Why phone bans work—and the student-led secret to getting buy-in from kids The disturbing rise of sexualised behaviour and harassment in schools Teacher burnout: why it’s getting worse and how to turn it around How shame, not badness, drives poor behaviour—and what restorative practices offer instead The 3 consistent challenges teachers face: student behaviour, workload, and parent interaction

You send out party invitations and… crickets. Or worse — a wall of “maybe” and no-shows. Are parents today just too busy, too anxious, or too uninterested to connect? Justin and Kylie tackle the growing epidemic of “commitment-phobia” among modern parents and uncover why it’s harder than ever to build the village our kids desperately need. From loneliness to overload to digital distractions, you’ll learn the real reasons parents opt out — and four surprisingly simple ways to bring connection back. If you’ve ever wondered why it feels like you’re parenting alone — and how to change that — this is the episode you need. KEY POINTS: Why today’s parents avoid social commitments (and it’s not just post-COVID). The collapse of “enforced proximity” and accidental connection. Why loneliness is now a public health crisis. How treating community like a marketplace keeps us isolated. The role of emotional overload and

Every parent hits that moment — the eye roll, the “you’re so unfair,” the slammed door. It’s the backchat that drives us up the wall. But what if we told you that this so-called “sass” is actually a sign of something good? In today’s episode, Justin and Kylie unpack why backchat is one of the most misunderstood parts of child development — and how you can respond in a way that strengthens your relationship, rather than wrecking it. We share 3 practical mindset shifts and 4 go-to scripts you can use today to turn attitude into connection and cooperation. Yes, even when the sass is strong. KEY POINTS: Backchat is often a clumsy expression of unmet needs — not a sign of defiance Reframing disrespect as a lack of skills (not a lack of values) changes everything Power struggles escalate when we seek control instead of connection Meeting autonomy, relatedness, and competence needs helps reduce pushback Get curious, not furious — especially when

What kind of parent willingly gives up a peaceful beach day… for four hours of standing in theme park lines? In this episode, Justin shares the story of his most "Father of the Year" moment — and Kylie reveals how she did something even braver. If you’ve ever had to choose between comfort and connection, this one’s for you. KEY POINTS: Why showing up — even when it’s uncomfortable — creates lasting memories for our kids.The unexpected benefits of shared boredom (like standing in line together!).How doing things you hate can still bring joy — to both you and your kids.The value of modelling courage, humour, and presence (even on the Kansas Twister).Why it’s often the hard, inconvenient moments that matter most in family life. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Do the hard things. The joy it brings your kids — seeing you squeal, be scared, and do it anyway — you can’t put a price on that.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: HappyFamilies.com.au &mdash

Few topics divide parents more than gender identity — and the stakes couldn’t be higher. On the last episode of Parental Guidance, the debate ignited strong emotions and hard truths about what it means to protect our kids’ mental health while avoiding irreversible mistakes.  In today’s podcast, Justin and Kylie break down the episode, share insights from research, and offer calm, practical advice for navigating this sensitive topic as a parent. KEY POINTS: Why this issue is so emotionally loaded. What we don’t know The strong correlation between gender identity struggles and other issues like autism, anxiety, depression, and online influences Why ‘affirmation-only’ models are controversial The role of screens and peer groups in shaping kids’ beliefs about gender. Why delaying medical or surgical interventions while maintaining love and openness can be the wisest path forward QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "You want to keep your kids safe, loved, and supported &md

What does “boys will be boys” really mean—and why does it get under so many parents’ skin? In this powerful episode, we dive into the final challenge of Parental Guidance and unpack the loaded stereotypes around masculinity, parenting roles, and what it means to raise emotionally healthy boys in today’s world. From baby dolls to rough-and-tumble play, the conversation gets real about how we guide our sons—and what we might be getting wrong. KEY POINTS: Why the phrase “boys will be boys” is not an excuse for bad behaviour How TV moments can misrepresent real-life parenting and child behaviour The critical role fathers can and should play in early parenting Gender roles, cultural expectations, and the policing of boys’ behaviour The concept of “surplus value” and helping boys become safe, strong contributors The challenge of letting boys be expressive without fear of being labelled or shamed Encouraging healthy masculinity without shaming tradit

What happens when your child becomes the parent — even just for a day? In this episode, we unpack last night’s Parental Guidance challenge, where kids were asked to care for a realistic baby doll, revealing what they’ve learned from their parents’ example. From “cry-it-out” methods to family role clarity, and even the silent weight of unappreciated parents — this conversation is a wake-up call for every mum and dad. Are you raising future chair stackers, or scorekeepers? KEY POINTS: Kids reflect the parenting they see — sometimes in ways we don’t expect. Why “cry-it-out” for babies is controversial and why we generally recommend avoiding it (especially under 6 months). The hidden harm of parenting with threats and power-centred comments. The trap of seeking validation from your children instead of giving without expectation. Why clarity in family roles, self-awareness, and communication are critical. The concept of raising “chair stacker

What do you do when your baby screams from 7 PM to 3 AM every night? Tonight, Parental Guidance tackles one of the toughest, most overlooked issues facing families: the silent epidemic of mental illness. Heartbreaking stories. Honest conversations. And real hope for parents who feel alone in the dark. Don’t miss this powerful episode—stream it on 9Now or watch live at 7:30 PM on Channel 9. RESOURCES MENTIONED Catch up on Seasons 1, 2, and the first episodes of Season 3 on the 9Now app. Tune in live tonight at 7:30 PM on Channel 9 or stream on 9Now. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Talking about money with kids can feel intimidating — but it doesn’t have to be. In episode #1302, Dr Justin Coulson is joined by Yish Koh, Managing Director of Kit, to unpack practical, simple ways parents can raise kids who are confident and smart with money. From avoiding the ‘tap trap’ to setting stretch goals, you’ll learn how your own money mindset shapes theirs — and the small, powerful lessons that stick for life. KEY POINTS: Why attitude about money matters more than aptitude — and how parents can model healthy habits. The danger of passing on economic anxiety to kids. How to teach kids to delay gratification and set meaningful goals. Creative ways to incentivise saving, including ‘stretch goals’ with bonuses. Why teaching kids about time and compound interest is a game-changer. Cash vs. digital money: helping kids grasp the value of invisible dollars. The best tools and apps to make financial education engaging and real for kids.

What happens when a child falls years behind in reading and writing? This week’s episode of The Happy Families Podcast dives into one of the most talked-about moments from Parental Guidance: the Life School parents’ children struggling with basic literacy. Justin and Kylie share why reading matters so much, how to help children who resist school and learning, and practical steps for parents who feel overwhelmed when their child is falling behind. If you’ve ever worried about your child’s progress—or felt judged by others—this conversation will give you hope, empathy, and a clear path forward. KEY POINTS: Reading is a gateway to learning, and kids need to see, hear, and engage with books daily. Many families lack books in the home—screens have crowded them out. Literacy struggles can stem from earlier traumatic or negative schooling experiences, creating resistance. Avoidance of learning challenges often worsens anxiety; action and support are crucial. There

What do you do when your child refuses to eat? When food, health, and body image turn into a dangerous battleground? In this deeply moving episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the devastating reality of eating disorders — with insights from a brave young woman who overcame anorexia, her incredible family, and a specialist psychologist who shares life-saving advice for parents. KEY POINTS 90% of teens have negative thoughts about their bodies; eating disorders affect far too many young people, especially girls. Social media and “diet culture” fuel body dissatisfaction, validation-seeking, and dangerous habits. Even the most loving parents can have children who perceive themselves as unlovable — perception is reality for struggling kids. Parents play a vital role: showing up consistently and lovingly is powerful even when it feels unnoticed.   Warning signs to watch for include: Loose, baggy clothing (to hide weight loss or from skin sensitivity) Avoiding family meals

“You don’t let other people tell you what beautiful is.”In this heartfelt episode of the Happy Families Podcast, Justin and Kylie Coulson reflect on the powerful lessons from Parental Guidance Season 3, Episode 3, exploring body image, self-worth, and how parents can shape their children’s relationship with their bodies—for better or worse. With vulnerable personal stories and actionable advice, they discuss how to shift the focus from looks to function, joy, and character.  KEY POINTS: Parents’ comments and attitudes about bodies deeply influence their children’s self-image. Many women carry lasting scars from childhood comments about their weight or looks. Society promotes a narrow and unhealthy definition of “beautiful.” Teach children to focus on what their bodies can do, not just how they look. Affirm children’s inner qualities and character as “beautiful” rather than only appearance. Complimenting children should be consistent

Why do girls talk about their looks and boys talk about their abilities? Last night’s Parental Guidance episode tackled the big, emotional topic of body image — from what our kids see in the mirror to what they learn from us. In this Happy Families Podcast recap, Justin and Kylie unpack the powerful moments, the heated debates about Botox and social media, and what the research says about raising kids who feel good about their bodies. KEY POINTS Introduction of four new parenting styles: Authoritative, Positivity, Hard Way, and Life School — and their views on body image. Kids’ mirror challenge revealed a clear gender split: boys focused on what their bodies do, girls on how their bodies look. Parents’ debate about Botox and cosmetic procedures highlighted tension between self-acceptance and role-modelling for kids. Social media and screen use increase body dissatisfaction — media literacy alone isn’t enough. WHO study: gender, not body size, predicts body image

What happens when kids are asked how they really see themselves?This episode of Parental Guidance (and our podcast preview) dives deep into one of the most powerful and emotional topics we’ve covered yet: body image. We unpack the heartbreaking reality of how children talk about their own appearance, the surprising ways parents influence those conversations, and a gripping, must-see story of a young girl’s fight against anorexia. Plus, we explore family fitness, nutrition, and an unexpected twist you won’t see coming. Tonight’s episode of Parental Guidance is one that will get Australia talking — and maybe even bring a tear to your eye. KEY POINTS: Kids share candidly how they see themselves — and the results are eye-opening. A moving story of one girl’s battle with an eating disorder. Why the way parents speak about their own bodies matters more than you think. Family fitness and nutrition challenges reveal compelling insights. An unexpected twist at the end that ev

Talking to kids about money can feel daunting. What if you say the wrong thing? What if they pick up your bad habits? In this episode of The Happy Families Podcast, Dr Justin Coulson is joined by financial literacy expert Nicole Pedersen-McKinnon to unpack practical, age-appropriate ways to help kids develop healthy money habits. From pocket money tips and goal-setting to avoiding the “tap trap” and understanding the power of time and compound interest, this episode will help you raise kids who feel confident and capable with their finances — and maybe teach you a thing or two along the way. KEY POINTS: Why parents’ attitudes and modelling matter more than a single “money talk” The importance of teaching kids to delay gratification and set goals Why kids’ biggest financial advantage is time — and how to help them use it Fun, kid-friendly ways to teach saving and earning (including apps and games) The psychological danger of passing on “economic anxie

Ever feel like bedtime (or just family life in general) is chaos? In this warm, honest episode of I’ll Do Better Tomorrow, Justin and Kylie share two powerful but simple parenting insights that can transform your family’s connection and calm. From spontaneous expressions of love to creating structured, soothing routines, you’ll walk away inspired to make small changes that lead to big results. KEY POINTS: Don’t wait for a “special moment” to show love. Tell your kids you love and appreciate them spontaneously, even in the middle of everyday moments. Structure creates calm. A consistent, enjoyable bedtime routine can lower resistance and help kids feel secure and settled. Competence matters. When children know what to do and what to expect, they feel more capable, cooperative, and happy. Even partial consistency is better than none. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t get it perfect — keep trying. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "Structure builds competence. C

t’s the conversation most parents hope they never have — but need to. Sexting, short shorts, and the values we bring into how we talk to our kids about consent, respect, and peer pressure. In this episode, Justin & Kylie Coulson unpack the big issues raised on this week’s Parental Guidance, and how you can guide your kids through a digital world where nothing sent is ever truly private. KEY POINTS Sexting is prevalent and often normalised among teens — but there is no such thing as “safe sexting.” Conversations about consent, respect, and peer pressure are vital and should happen early. Girls are under more pressure to share explicit images and often face more shame when they do. Parents’ personal values (e.g., about clothing choices) are valid but must not drift into victim-blaming. Teaching kids respect means emphasising that what someone wears or does never justifies harassment or assault. Encourage kids to consider context and to be mindful of how they live o

It’s one of the hardest — and most important — conversations parents can have: teaching kids about consent. In this episode of the Happy Families Podcast, we break down the powerful lessons from Parental Guidance season 3, episode 2, including insights from consent educator Dan Principe. From why consent conversations can’t wait, to the right age to start, to how to empower kids without shame or fear — we’ll help you get comfortable having uncomfortable conversations, and raise kids who understand respect, boundaries, and healthy relationships. KEY POINTS Why consent education starts “before age two” — and why “early and often” matters. The startling reality: 15–19 year old girls are the largest group of sexual assault victims; 15–19 year old boys are the largest group of perpetrators. Why old-school “guns and shovels” attitudes harm more than they help. The role of ongoing, informal and formal family conversations abou

In a world where kids feel lonelier than ever- despite being constantly “connected” - how can we help them build real, meaningful friendships and resist negative peer pressure? How are the families on Parental Guidance helping their kids make and foster friendships? In this episode, we dive into the crucial role of social skills, healthy face-to-face interactions, and intentional parenting to help children thrive socially and emotionally. KEY POINTS Not all peer pressure is bad — positive peer pressure can help kids adopt healthy habits. Many kids today struggle with loneliness despite being surrounded by peers, often due to excessive screen time and lack of real-world social practice. Social skills like introducing oneself, showing curiosity, and maintaining conversations are essential for resisting negative peer pressure. Parents play a key role by modelling healthy social interactions, facilitating opportunities, and keeping conversations about relationships open and non-judgemental. Exc

Tonight on Parental Guidance, Season 3 continues with one of the most important—and challenging—parenting topics: peer pressure and consent. Justin and Kylie preview Episode 2, teasing the big questions you’ll want to discuss with your kids after watching. From raising upstanders to helping kids say “no” when it matters most, this episode is packed with practical ways to strengthen your family’s values in the face of social pressure. KEY POINTS: Season 3 of Parental Guidance airs tonight at 7:30 on Channel 9 and 9Now, with Episode 2 focusing on peer pressure and consent. Peer pressure often drives kids into non-consensual or harmful behaviour—helping them stand firm is critical. Questions parents should reflect on and discuss with their kids: How comfortable are your children in new social situations? Have you had clear, age-appropriate conversations about consent? Will your child be an upstander when others are excluded or bullied? Can your child say “no&rdqu