Sex With Emily

Have you ever used FaceTime for sex? Maybe you’re traveling and want to stay connected to your partner. Maybe you’re dating and want to test the waters with someone virtually before having sex IRL. Or maybe the idea just turns you on! No matter the case, today’s episode is all about FaceTime sex and how to pull it off. First, I’m talking prep steps: literally, how do you get in the mood for FaceTime sex and help yourself feel comfortable on-screen? Next, how do you position your camera and what do you actually say in the moment? Finally, I take your questions on FaceTime sex, including: how to spice it up and how do you end a sexting session? Show Notes: Ask Emily: How Do I Get a Stronger Erection? 6 Secrets to Have the Best Oral Sex of Your Life ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of purchase to smartsex@sexwithemily.com and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz GQ Article: The Idol just gave us the worst sex scene in history

What feeling are you chasing in bed? No, I’m not talking about orgasm. I’m talking about an emotion, like feeling worshiped, praised, or unbelievably desirable. On the other hand, maybe it arouses you to feel degraded, objectified – even humiliated. On today’s show, I’m unpacking a kink that’s getting a ton of attention lately on social media: praise kink. It falls under the larger umbrella of core erotic desires, which we all have. I show you how to identify your core erotic desires and how to turn them into realities. I also get into your kinky questions, including: when you adore your fiancée, but fantasize about sex with your much kinkier ex, what now? And when your partner constantly gets hit on my other men, is it healthy to get turned on by it? All this and more in today's episode. Show Notes: Ask Emily: How Do I Get a Stronger Erection? Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) Yes! No! Maybe? List Article: How to Make a Mess ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your

Let’s talk teasing. Do you know how to build sexual tension? Maybe you’re dating and want to be a cute flirt. Or maybe you’re in a long term relationship and want to create a sexy vibe. No matter your situation, today’s episode teaches a lost art: the art of the tease. First, I talk focus and flirting: simple little hacks to put the spotlight on the other person with flavors of sexual play. Next, I talk body language: when to touch, when not to touch, and how to deploy a sexy sort of restraint – not desperation – to your interactions. Finally, I take your questions on confidence and seduction, including: how do you show interest on a date without coming on too strong? Show Notes: ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of purchase to smartsex@sexwithemily.com and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more inf

I’m introducing a new series today that you literally helped me create: Sexy Stories! You share your juiciest, most personal success stories with me, and I read them aloud on the show. Because sometimes the best way to learn about sex comes from other people and their experiences. First: parents who sent their kids away and tried pegging for the very first time. Hear how it went… from the husband’s perspective. Next, a married couple of 20 years have an unexpected night on the dance floor involving a chance meeting with a hot stranger – and then, their very first threesome. Finally, she orgasms for the first time during penetration, but you’ll never guess how she got there. If you have a Sexy Story you would like to share on the podcast, send it to feedback@sexwithemily.com with “Sexy Story” in the subject line! Please only include information (such as names) that you are comfortable being read aloud on the podcast. Show Notes: How to Talk Like a Good Little Sub ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Yo

How do you take a classic sex position and make it kinky? On today’s show, I’m telling you exactly how. Inspired by the positions chapter in Smart Sex (out now at bookstores everywhere), I’m talking through two specific positions that bring the kink – and another classic that you can spice up with a little power play. First, I’m looking at Cowgirl/Cowboy and talking through its pros, cons, and evolutions to introduce kinky dynamics. Next, I’m talking Doggy Style (or as I like to call it: Rear Entry) and breaking down its inherent kink dynamics and ideas to make it even more exciting. Finally, we’re looking at Missionary, which I think we can all agree needs a kinky rebrand. I’ll give you ideas to make it more surprising and sexy. Show Notes: How to Talk Like a Good Little Sub ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of purchase to smartsex@sexwithemily.com and I’ll send

Remember Loveline? The call-in show hosted by Dr. Drew to get your love and dating questions answered? Well, it holds a special place in my heart because I used to co-host it! So today, in celebration of my career leading up to my new book Smart Sex (out today!), I’m inviting my dear friend Dr. Drew Pinsky onto Sex With Emily to help me answer your sex questions Loveline-style. First, what does it mean when you feel like your long-distance partner is following you to your next city? Next, a college guy wants to know: how do you find real connection amid hookup culture? Or what about moving on from a toxic sexual relationship: how do you claim your own desires, now that you’re single? All this and more with me and Dr. Drew. Show Notes: How to Make a Mess: Squirting, Face Ejaculation & Golden Showers Double the O, Double the Pleasure: How to Have Blended & Multiple Orgasms ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event

Let’s 69! It’s one of those sex acts where you tend to be a full-on lover or hater. But no matter what camp you fall in, chances are that if you’re having sex, you’re going to come across the famous, the controversial, 69 sex position. Why not learn some pointers to make the whole thing more hot, and more comfortable? First, I share research with you that might motivate you to put 69 on regular rotation in your sex life. Next, I give you techniques for being an excellent oral giver, and strategies like mindful masturbation, to help you become a more relaxed and erotic receiver. Finally, I talk position tips like the Sideways 69 and the Power 69 for you to play with, and take all your pressing questions on 69ing and oral sex.  Show Notes: How to Make a Mess: Squirting, Face Ejaculation & Golden Showers Double the O, Double the Pleasure: How to Have Blended & Multiple Orgasms ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Ev

How did you discover who you were as a sexual being? Are you still figuring it out? Your desires, your sexual turn-ons, your overall attitude towards sex itself? Well, today, we’re doing something a little different: I’m answering all those questions and letting you in on my sexual journey. That’s right! I’ve got author, anthropologist, and my dear friend Dr. Wednesday Martin on the show today as we turn the tables and let her ask me how my career as a sex educator got started, the first time I had legitimately good sex, and how my relationship with sex has evolved. I also share the backstory behind this podcast, why I was so curious to launch a career in sex education in the first place, and how it's all led up to my book, Smart Sex. Listen in… it’s a juicy one. Show Notes: Your Guide to Mutual Masturbation How to Train Your Vagina ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email pr

Good news: every vulva owner can learn how to squirt. But it does take practice, and on today’s Best Of show, I’ve got sex educator, author, and female ejaculation expert Deborah Sundahl here to walk us through it. First, Deborah clarifies the connection between squirting and the G-spot, and just in case you have any doubts about the G-spot’s existence, Deborah tells you how to find yours in the mirror. Next, we clarify what female ejaculate is – hint, not pee – and how this fluid builds up in your body. We also talk about the difference between squirting and orgasm, and finally, we take your top questions on how to squirt with a partner. Yes: there are step-by-step tips! Because, as I always say, the wetter, the better. Show Notes: Your Guide to Mutual Masturbation How to Train Your Vagina ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of pre-order purchase to smartsex@sexwi

Violet Benson started her now-famous Instagram account @DaddyIssues_ while working through issues of her own. On today’s podcast, she opens up about working through deep emotional struggles so she can create the sex life and relationships that truly work for her. No matter your background or life stage, I’m positive this conversation will liberate and inspire you to take the next step in your sex life. Violet, who hosts the popular podcast Almost Adulting, tells me about her decision to temporarily swear off penetrative sex, freezing her eggs, and how she quit playing games while dating. She also takes the Sex IQ quiz inspired by my upcoming book, Smart Sex! Listen to her results, then listen to both of us answer a listener question: when the sex is hot but they’ve got huge, emotional red flags, should you pursue them anyway? Show Notes: Sexy Summer Pack List: The Seven Essentials 5 Reasons to Add Anal Play to Your Masturbation Routine ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Ple

We all have fears around sex, whether we’re aware of them or not. Maybe you’re worried someone’s not going to like your body, or that if you and your partner try something new, it’ll be awkward or weird. Maybe you’re worried you’ll never have sex with anyone ever again. I’m here to tell you this: your sexual anxieties are completely normal. Listen in as my callers and I work through theirs and develop actionable solutions to take the next step. When you’re a vulva owner, and something comes out when you orgasm, are you peeing or squirting? When preparing for a threesome, how can you get over the fear that your partner won't want sex with just you anymore? When the sex has fallen off entirely, how do you start initiating again? All this and more in today's sexual anxieties episode. Show Notes: Sexy Summer Pack List: The Seven Essentials 4 Penis Problems and 4 Ways to Solve Them MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and O

Author Elise Loehnen has thought a lot about women and desire. In her new book On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good, she breaks down the cultural forces that teach women to be desirable rather than desiring, and the shame attached to a woman wanting something: whether it’s sex, success, or a damn slice of pizza. Whether it’s lust, and the way we encourage women to police others' sexuality, or sloth, and the way women are encouraged to be their husbands' caregivers, these invisible expectations serve none of us. Instead, Elise talks about ways we can liberate ourselves in ways that improve our sex lives and beyond: how to balance masculine and feminine energies in relationships, how to shed sexual shame, and so much more. As Elise says, “Our bodies are portals; lust is the invitation to enter.” Please note that this episode includes discussions of sexual trauma. If you would like to skip these portions of the episode, please skip through:  19:35-25:13 41:36-43:03 S

It can be difficult to meet new people and cultivate relationships, especially when looking for romantic partners. But don’t let that hold you back from trying: you might just need a new strategy. On today’s show, I take your calls on modern dating and how to solve the problems you’re running into. Let’s say you want to date an older woman but don’t have confidence in your communication - how do you improve your conversation game? When you’ve been single for years and fear rejection, how do you break out of romantic stagnation? Or what about breadcrumbing: when someone gives you just enough to keep you interested without outright ghosting you. How can you directly communicate without coming off as pushy? Finally, what are the signs of love bombing? One caller asks me if that’s what’s happening to her. Spoiler: yep. Show Notes: What’s a Sexual State of the Union & Why Should You Have One? MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Se

All sexual fantasies have one thing in common: they trigger an arousal response inside our bodies, laced with erotic flavor. But how do you actualize your fantasy with a partner who’s wary of it? Even turned off by it? On today’s show, I’m taking your calls on this exact predicament. First up: when your partner wants you to drastically change your appearance for their pleasure, should you do it? Or when your partner wants to watch you with a third, how do you find that person? Next, if you’re not naturally dominant in bed, but your partner’s begging for it, how do you step into your power? I also get into urine fetishes (yep, like golden showers), how to introduce them to an otherwise vanilla sex life, and how to explore same-sex adventures in a hetero marriage.     Show Notes: Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered t

You shouldn't have to be an Olympic gymnast to have sex. But let’s be honest – certain positions can be hard! So inspired by the Positions chapter in my new book Smart Sex, I’m bringing back this Best Of episode. You’ll hear quick tips to make ambitious moves easier and classic moves more exciting. First, I share the most-searched sex positions in the country: can you guess America’s favorite sex move? Next, we look at the much-hyped reverse cowgirl. I give suggestions to make it feel as good and sexy as it looks. As for oral: I talk you through the Kivin Method, which stimulates vulva owners' K-points, and how to make 69 more relaxing. Finally, don’t go to the emergency room from shower sex – just listen to my tips to keep it steamy AND stable. Show Notes: How to Talk Like a Dom for Better Sex: 6 Essential Phrases Moms Deserve Pleasure Too: A Sexy Self-Care Guide MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleas

When resentment builds up in a relationship, it compromises our sexual connection. We feel taken for granted, unappreciated, and unseen. Most of all, we feel emotionally unsafe, which makes it impossible to let loose and feel free in bed. So on today’s show, I talk through a study that connects the dots between a quality sex life and regular expressions of gratitude. Next, I take your calls: when long standing issues with your partner inhibit your desire, how do you break through that impasse? When your partner says you’re not meeting their sexual standards, how much of that messaging do you take in? And when you crave words of affirmation, but they just can’t seem to give them, is it time for new therapy or to respectfully end the relationship? Show Notes: How to Talk Like a Dom for Better Sex: 6 Essential Phrases Ask Emily: What is a Penis Ring and Why Should I Use It? PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of

We all need to mix it up sometimes. Has your masturbation routine gone stale? Is sex with your partner too predictable? With creativity and a little teasing, absolutely everyone can spice up their sex life – and I’m here to tell you how. First, we’ll talk about planning a "sex-cation" with low-lift ideas you can try right at home. Next, when you and your partner have already tried all the new things, what’s left? I advise one caller on sexual teasing and how denying your pleasure can heighten the intensity. We also discuss ways to make your solo sex more interesting and arousing, and how to have more fun with casual sex if your current routine – even with new people! – is leaving you bored. Show Notes: Ask Emily: What is a Penis Ring and Why Should I Use It? PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my

Ever wondered if there’s more to your sexuality than you ever realized? Or relationship models that challenge everything you’re used to? Men’s Health and Cosmo sex columnist Zachary Zane has been there. As a self-proclaimed “boyslut,” he’s radically open about his journey as a bisexual, polyamorous man and tells all in his forthcoming book: BOYSLUT: A Memoir and Manifesto. He shares how he came to understand his attraction to all genders, his experience living in a polycule, why it’s healthy for all of us to get used to rejection, and how bisexuality for men is gaining more visibility. He also helps me answer your questions on exploring bisexuality while in a long-term relationship, how to respond if you’re in a hetero relationship and your partner tells you they’re bisexual, and how to find casual, no strings attached sex. Show Notes: Ask Emily: What is a Penis Ring and Why Should I Use It? The Sexiest Morning Routine Ever PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

Yes, it’s true: I’m talking with my own mother today about sex. A ton of you have asked me how I got into the sex education business in the first place: now, you get to hear from the person who raised me! First, my mom and I talk about her sexual journey, coming up in a time when open communication around sex wasn’t normalized and female pleasure wasn’t valued. She also helps me your questions on sex and relationships, like how to give a partner feedback when they’re doing something that turns you off, what to do if menopause is tanking your sex drive, how to negotiate with your partner when you’ve got different definitions of cheating, and how to approach a partner who does NOT want to spice up your sex life – but you’re dying for some variety.  Show Notes: The Future of Sex Tech The Sexiest Morning Routine Ever PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the p

There’s often someone who initiates the sex, and someone who says “yes” or “no.” These roles can work long-term, but what happens when sexual initiations become a problem? When you’re always hearing no, or when you always say no? On today’s show, I'm talking about sexual initiations and how to make this moment a better experience for all. When you’re the initiator, but want your partner to do it more often, how do you talk to them about it? We’ll also get into spontaneous vs. responsive desire, and as someone with responsive desire, I’ll share my routine for getting turned on for sex. Finally, when you and your partner are so busy that no one’s initiating, what’s the conversation you need to have? I advise a caller in this exact situation. Show Notes: The Future of Sex Tech The Sexiest Morning Routine Ever PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pa