Sex With Emily

Are you and your partner sexually compatible? That’s the theme of today’s Hotline Calls show, as my Producer and I break down these couples' sex and relationship issues. First, when your partner isn’t pleasuring you as much as you’d like, does that mean they aren’t attracted? Or just nervous? Next, do you squirt during sex? It’s a goal for many, but what if it’s happening more than you’d like? How about sex drive discrepancy? When you’ve had more chemistry with past partners – and more sex – is your current partner not a fit? Or do you need to find a middle ground? Finally, what happens when your partner’s got a kink that weirds you out? We don’t yuck anyone’s yum here, but one caller needs advice on navigating brother-sister role play. Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Oral Herpes? How to Keep Living Your Best Sex Life 5 Hot, Consensual Ways to Practice Voyeurism Playdrop Sex Ma

Esther Perel is one of the most fascinating contemporary thinkers on sex and relationships. A psychotherapist and two-time bestselling author, she’s the host of the “Where Should We Begin?” podcast, which takes you inside the therapist’s office and lets you listen in on her sessions with clients. Esther is noticing some important changes in sex and relationships. Non-monogamy is becoming more common as a relationship model: why? And is it right for everyone? How about ”family-alization” – when couples start looking at each other like siblings or roommates, how do you bring the sexual spark back? Especially if you’ve never had it in the first place? Finally, how do we revive our sensual selves when we’re immersed in technology? Can we use it to turn each other on instead of numbing ourselves? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 7 Signs of Sexual Compatibility Oral Herpes? How to Keep Living Your Best Sex Life Where Should We Begin? Podcast: Apple Podcasts | Spotify Where Should We

Sex toys have exploded in popularity in the past few years, but there’s one situation where they still tend to be forgotten: sex itself. Using a toy with a partner can feel intimidating. That’s why I’m devoting this episode to beginner-friendly toy play, with ideas for oral sex, intercourse, and even anal play. Listen, you don’t need all the bells and whistles to get a lot out of sex toys! So I kick things off with two essential toys and all the versatile ways you can use them: bullet vibrators and penis rings. Next, I talk you through three sex positions and how to use a toy in each one: missionary, spooning, and cowgirl/cowboy. Finally, I answer all your sex toy questions, including when it’s harder to climax after giving birth -- which toy and techniques can bring your O back?  See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 5 Steps to Your Happiest, Healthiest Vagina 7 Signs of Sexual Compatibility Magic Wand Mini Massager SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Grand Bullet by

“Low self-worth makes authentic sex impossible.” So says bestselling author Tara Schuster, who broke out with her runaway bestseller Buy Yourself The F*cking Lilies and released the life-affirming page-turner Glow In The F*cking Dark this year. On this episode, Tara opens up about hating her body, having sex exclusively in the dark, and how she rewired her brain to love herself (and her body). Tara and I also take your listener questions, where we discuss dating burnout, sexual triggers, and solo sex as self-care. When you’ve just gotten out of a toxic relationship, how can you feel more confident when you go out in public? When dating is one long string of disappointments, what gives? And finally, how do you have exploratory sex when you don’t have a partner? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Have Honeymoon Sex Forever 5 Steps to Your Happiest, Healthiest Vagina Glow In the F*cking Dark, Tara Schuster: Bookshop | Amazon | Barnes & Noble Glow Getters Journal Club More Tara

The Sex With Emily Hotline is open! On this episode, I’m joined by my Producer, Erica, as we talk about disappearing erections, prostate massages, and so much more. First, what do you do when your partner has health issues that cause them to lose their erections? I give one caller ideas for how to work around this issue and thoughts on what might be causing it in the first place. Next, why don’t couples fantasize together more often? A couple calls in to share their sexual fantasies, and we give you inspo on how to do the same with your partner. When your partner wants a prostate massage, how do you pull it off? I tell you what to feel for, how to apply pressure and fun toys you can use. Finally, when your partner has never had an orgasm before, how can you help? And should you? Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Is My Penis Normal? How to Have Honeymoon Sex Forever TOR 3 from LEL

Two of your most powerful sex accessories? Your hands. Hands set the tone of your sexual energy. For example, caressing their cheek while you make out versus pinning their hands down while you have sex. And while we talk a lot about what to do with our mouths or genitals on this show, today I’m focusing on a lost art: hand play. Specifically, how to finger, give a hand job, and use your hands with sexual intention. Today, my Producer, Erica, and I first share how to penetrate a vulva with your fingers. We give you tricks to stimulate the labia and clitoris, different forms of pressure and touch, and how to find the G-spot when you finger. Next, we give the penis some love with hand job techniques and upgrades like toy play and perineum stimulation. Finally, we discuss secondary erogenous zones and answer your hand play questions. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Top 6 Sex Positions to Use With a Sex Toy Is My Penis Normal? 6 Essential Sex Toy Hacks Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (c

It’s Hotline Calls time! And we’ve got one common theme: trust - the foundation of hot sex. Because when you trust yourself and the person you’re with, you can fully let go in bed and relax into your deepest pleasure. When oral sex gets too rough, how can you ask your partner to be more gentle and respectful? I’ve got some thoughts. When your partner doesn’t love booty play – but you definitely do – can you still ask for a rim job? Let’s say your partner goes to strip clubs, and it makes you super uncomfortable. How do you set boundaries together? Finally, when you’re the non-primary partner in a polyamorous relationship, what resources can you turn to for advice & guidance? Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: 5 Libido-Boosting Aphrodisiacs to Try In and Out of the Bedroom Is My Penis Normal? SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) System JO Flavored Lube System JO Tri

We all experience performance anxiety in bed from time to time. We get in our heads, we worry we’re not hot / good / skilled enough, and sometimes we try to be people we’re not during sex. That’s why today’s episode is about identifying different types of performance anxiety, so that we can show up more confident and relaxed for sex. First I talk through O-blockers: common reasons your orgasm and overall pleasure hit a limit. Next I bring up popular “personas” people adopt in bed, like the cool girl/guy who’s down for whatever (even when you’re actually not) and the super dominant, in-charge lover (even when you’re actually more submissive). Finally, I give you strategies to increase your sexual confidence and take all of your sexual anxiety questions. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: Prostate Play: The Comprehensive Guide 5 Libido-Boosting Aphrodisiacs to Try In and Out of the Bedroom VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) SHOP

This is how an orgasm works. It’s a symphony of mind, nervous system, blood flow and muscle spasms, all syncing up to give you oh-so-wonderful sensations. But what if you’ve never had an orgasm before? Or what if you do experience them – but want them to be better? In today’s popular Best Of episode, I explain the science behind orgasms and how to make yours amazing. I tell you what to do if you’ve never had an orgasm before, give you tricks for elevating your orgasms, and even share a few unexpected erogenous zones where you can orgasm (nipplegasms, anyone?). I also take your orgasm questions including: when the sex is great, but you just can’t climax with your partner, what gives? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: 6 Essential Sex Toy Hacks How to Train Your Vagina SONA 2 Travel from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want

Initiating sex, dry spells, and mismatched libidos: the Hotline Calls are open, and your sex questions are answered! Today’s sexual concerns are especially relatable: I’m willing to bet you’ve experienced one of these yourself. Let’s start with orgasms. When you can only get off in one very specific position, how can you retrain your body and mind? I give you tips on switching up your technique. Next: coming out of a sexual dry spell, how do you learn to initiate again? I help you collaborate with your partner. When you’re always a top (the more dominant one during sex), how can you tell your partner that you’d like to bottom (be more submissive) occasionally? I walk you through that conversation. Finally, when your spouse has next to zero interest in sex, what now? I offer insights on changing your relationship patterns to experience mutual pleasure and compatibility. Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. See the full show notes at sexwithemi

([TW: SA] If you would like to skip this portion of the episode, please skip through: 21:25-22:00) Let’s talk friends with benefits. Somewhere between a relationship and a situationship, you’ve got FWBs... And in my view, they’re a completely valid relationship model. But let’s be honest: they’re not for everyone. Navigating the friendship part of an FWB can get murky, especially if you’re secretly hoping it will turn into a real relationship. So in this popular best-of episode, I first help you get clear on whether or not you’re a good candidate for an FWB set-up. Next, we talk about how to establish your terms going in, because trust me – before you have sex with your friends, your communication skills have to be on-point. Finally I answer all your FWB questions, including: when you’ve had the same FWB for years but crave more with them, should you speak up? Or move on to someone more committed?  See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: 10 Ways to Use Lube During Sex 8 Ways to Masturbate (B

It’s time to debunk the toxic myths around sex and age. Does sexual satisfaction drop off as you get older? Absolutely not! In fact, the data tells us the exact opposite is true. Today, anthropologist, bestselling author and my dear friend Dr. Wednesday Martin and I lay out the facts, which is fitting: we’re both in our fifties! If you’re not in your fifties yet, here’s what you can look forward to. It’s the decade many of us hit the reset button on our sexual desires. It’s the decade you start purely having sex for pleasure. And it’s the decade your confidence and communication get even better because you’ve honed your relationship (and career!) skills. Wednesday and I talk about why your fifties are so sexy, the signs of perimenopause and menopause and how to treat both, and our best advice for younger women. See the full Show Notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: The 6 Best Masturbation Toys 10 Ways to Use Lube During Sex Podcast: Dating Younger Men, Canceling Threesomes: Emily Tells All The Menopaus

When you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open the relationship? What does it mean when they don’t finish during sex? In today’s Hotline Calls episode, I’m taking all your pressing sex questions. First, when you want to bring sex toys and lube into the bedroom, but your partner is firmly opposed…what now? I offer communication tips to help bring down defenses. Next, when you’re loving sex with your partner but they never orgasm, is that a cause for concern? I talk about delayed ejaculation and why it happens. We also get into non-monogamy: when you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open up the relationship? Or is a different, deeper conversation needed? Finally, when you’re happily hooking up, how do you keep casual sex from turning into serious relationships? Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. Show Notes: The Boner Breakdown: All the Types of Erections You Can Have The 6 Best Masturbation Toys SHOP WITH EMILY! (f

Bored in bed? It happens. Sexual boredom doesn’t necessarily mean there’s anything wrong with your relationship – but it is a cue that you’re ready for novelty. So save this episode because it’s an entire guide to spicing up your sex. First, I start with the when and where: how does the time of day affect your arousal? And where can you do it besides the bedroom? Next, we make your favorite sex positions more interesting and exciting with tweaks you can try right now. Finally, I give you beginner-friendly kink with sensory deprivation, temperature play and hurts-so-good pain play. Right this way to easy kink and tons of low-lift ways to play. Show Notes: 6 Ways to Infuse Intimacy into Your Weeknights The Boner Breakdown: All the Types of Erections You Can Have SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) SONA 2 Travel from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Sleep Gummies Sample) Je Joue Massage Candles

Your sleep affects your sex drive: we know this. The bottom line: if you know the right sleep hacks, you can have much better sex. In this fascinating Best Of episode with Dr. Michael Breus, we dive into the science of sleep and how to leverage it for sexual arousal. Starting with the four chronotypes, your body’s natural disposition to be awake or asleep, we help you figure out how to work with your body (not against it) for sexual arousal. We also discuss snoring – why it happens and how it affects your sexual connection. “I’ve saved more marriages as a sleep therapist than I ever would have as a marital therapist,” says Dr. Breus. In this episode, you’ll learn how to work with your unique circadian rhythm for better sex and communication. Show Notes: Flow With It: How to Have Period Sex 6 Ways to Infuse Intimacy into Your Weeknights SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Hello Again Suppositories (code EMILY25 for 25% off orders over $50) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your

Let’s talk solo anal. You may be looking around right now, wondering why anal play is so trendy, and thinking to yourself: “is this actually for me?” But before you jump into the anal deep end with a partner, I’ve got a pro tip: try anal with yourself! On today’s episode, I’m talking through all the positive reasons to explore anal with yourself, no matter what genitals you’ve got. I’m also busting common anal myths and giving you step-by-step tips for exploration based on your anatomy. I’m talking all things toys and insertion for beginners to advanced anal players. Tune in for your solo anal play primer, and keep listening to hear me answer all your booty Q’s. Show Notes: Flow With It: How to Have Period Sex SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) b-Vibe Vibrating Jewel Plug b-vibe Anal Training Kit Aneros Mgx Syn Trident Prostate Massager LELO Loki Wave Prostate Massager Vibrator Lumen LED Pleasure Plug Pjur Original Silicone Lubricant Pjur Backdoor Relaxing Anal Glide Lubricant Arti

Solo sex (aka masturbation) is legitimate self-care. Better sleep, less stress, glowing skin, heightened immunity – and let’s not forget orgasms (not that I think you would). So on today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking all things solo sex and how to make it work for you. Feel embarrassed or ashamed about it? Or do you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing? I help you create a solo sex routine that matches your lifestyle and get you in the right (sexy) headspace for it. I also take your solo sex questions, including: when your partner asks you to masturbate in front of them, but you feel shy – how do you pull it off? And should you? Show Notes: How to Heat Up Your Temperature Play VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Sleep Gummies Sample) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15

How do your meals affect your sex drive? Are your hormones interfering with your pleasure? And real talk…does alcohol make it harder for you to orgasm? Dr. Will Cole hosts the podcast The Art of Being Well, and on today’s show, he explains the connection between what you eat and how you feel – both in and out of the bedroom. We discuss sex-supportive nutrients and how to fill your plate for better sex, the real deal on HRT and hormone fluctuation, shame-flammation, and so much more. If you’ve ever wondered how certain foods help or hurt your sex life, this one’s for you.   Show Notes: How to Heat Up Your Temperature Play ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Emily on The Art of Being Well Podcast: Website | Apple Podcasts | Spotify Gut Feelings by Dr. Will Cole More Dr. Will Cole: Website | Telehealth Co

When it comes to turn ons, we’ve all got our preferences. Maybe you love a deep, sexy voice. Maybe a wicked sense of humor. But there are five sexual arousal styles that apply to most people: you can think of them as the five love languages for sexual excitement. They are: conversation, visuals, touch, play or physical adventure. In this popular Best Of episode, I break down the five styles and how to identify your top one. I share tips for harnessing your arousal, with date ideas and behaviors to spark your sexual curiosity. I also help you understand the key difference between arousal and desire, and take your arousal questions, including: what do you do when medication is numbing your genitals? And when you’re more excited for solo sex than partnered sex – is that a problem? Show Notes: Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? Sex With Emily:

([TW // mentions SA, r*pe] If you would like to skip these portions of the episode, please skip through: 21:30-22:25, 51:30-52:05.) Porn gets a bad rap – for very understandable reasons. Today, I’m breaking down the reasons why with Dr. Wednesday Martin, and also playing devil’s advocate and giving you a new way to approach it. Can you learn legit sex skills from porn viewing? In this episode, I’m going through all the reasons porn might be triggering for some, so you know how to incorporate it into your relationship or your solo sex in a healthy way. Next, I give tips for how to watch it with a partner, and identify your personal turn-ons. Finally, I talk through edu-porn, audio erotica and other contemporary porn platforms that get you aroused…and sexually educated. Show Notes: 6 Secrets to Have the Best Oral Sex of Your Life LELO F1S V2 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Insta