Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

What do you do when your anxiety has become their anxiety? In this listener Q&A, Justin and Kylie respond to Amy from Melbourne—a self-diagnosed helicopter parent whose 9-year-old daughter now struggles with fear and risk aversion. With compassion and practical insight, they break down the difference between risky and dangerous play, explore the impact of parental anxiety, and offer real-world strategies to build your child’s confidence—without ignoring safety. KEY POINTS Risk ≠ Danger: Risky play involves challenge with decision-making and agency. Dangerous or hazardous play involves hidden threats kids can’t yet assess. Why Risky Play Matters: It improves mental health, builds confidence, reduces anxiety, enhances learning, and strengthens decision-making. Parental Anxiety is Contagious: When parents over-control, children miss the chance to develop autonomy and trust in their own judgement. Structure Builds Competence: Autonomy-supportive parenting isn’t “ha