Light The Fight- Parenting Podcast

In this episode, we share the "Wins" of a mom who started using the highs, lows, and who the heck knows with her family! David and Heidi also expand on why the highs, lows, and who the heck knows works and why our brains need those three options.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, David and Heidi go more in-depth on the Instagram message from David on the deaths of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain. As well as discussing the current situation of the mental health discussion.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

David and Heidi breakdown skills and tools to help when family is criticizing your parenting skills.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Finally, David addresses the long awaited topic of “THE OLDEST CHILD”. In this episode, David shares what he has learned in his schooling, as well as his clinical experience about the unique relationship between the Father and his oldest Son, and the Mother and her oldest Daughter. Learn about how critical an optimized relationship is to overcome difficult cycles within families.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In DM #009, David confesses that this is a topic that he discusses with clients multiple times a week! “How can parents re-trust their teens?” You might be a little surprised to hear David’s advice.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

David and Heidi get a DM asking on the best way to support teens and kids that are dealing with Anxiety. David gives some suggestions of what you can do to support your teens and kids figuring out what works best for them.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Heidi shares her experience speaking at her community’s suicide awareness event, and how she has faced her own “resistance” and is seeking “Evolution” ... she also opens up about her first try at “video journaling”.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this 7th DM, David responds to the many questions about cell phones, and how dangerous they are? Instead of debating the dangers, or the addictions of cell phones + social media combo, he talks about how effective our approach is in talking to our kids about this touchy subject! This episode will give you some thoughts on how to discuss it in a more open way with your teens.Social Media Video Link: https://youtu.be/PmEDAzqswh8Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

David and Heidi discuss how you can help someone understand the struggles you are going through and the struggles your kids are going through when they can't personally relate. In this episode, David discusses the book, "Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions" by Johann Hari You can purchase that book here: https://www.amazon.com/Lost-Connections-Uncovering-Depression-Unexpected/dp/B078HSDZSQ/ref=tmm_aud_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This episode was originally filmed as part of a LIVE stream on Instagram and Facebook! David and Heidi discuss the concept of how we influence those around us by ourselves being MIRRORS that others see themselves in. How do we reflect back? How can we create a more positive reflection for those we come in contact with?Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this DM, David and Heidi are asked a very serious question. "What to do When a Boy Threatens Suicide When Your Daughter Doesn't Like Him?" We give three different options on how to handle this situation. You can DM us at @lightthefight on social media, David @DavidKoz, Heidi @HeidiSwapp and you can email us at lightthefightpodcast@gmail.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Understanding the vital difference between “victim vulnerability” and “assertive vulnerability” is an absolute game changer in building relationships and creating connections. David explains (and demonstrates) the difference between the two types, giving an important clarity that can otherwise be misunderstood. Learn to spot examples of these two opposite approaches in your life, and how to become more ASSERTIVELY vulnerable in all your relationships, including yourself. In this episode, David and Heidi discuss the Books "Extreme Ownership" by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin and "The Way of The Warrior Kid" by Jocko Willink. To purchase Extreme Ownership: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1250183863/ref=as_li_qf_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=jocko20-20&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=1250183863&linkId=b647a7a20738130a540ea90deab4dfdbTo purchase The Way of The Warrior Kid: https://www.amazon.com/Marcs-Mission-Way-Warrior-Novel/dp/1250156793/ref=pd_bxgy_14_img_3?_encoding=UTF8

David and Heidi dig deeper into the Guilt vs. Shame concept! Specifically, about the power and importance of "Best Friending" yourself...Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In DM #004, Heidi reads a question from a mom who is concerned about her son’s "video game” to "real friends" ratio! David’s suggestion for approaching this very common issue, might not be what you expect! Would you believe David says “games first”?Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The natural inclination that we feel as parents is to SAVE our children from things that might cause them HURT and PAIN! In this episode, Heidi remembers some valuable advice that David gave to her in a session they had 3 years ago. This information was hard for Heidi to hear because she felt so hard-wired to protect her son from his own choices. It’s ok to allow our kids to experience the hurt and pain associated with their actions; instead of saving them from it, learn how and what the parent’s role is to support throughout the challenges our kids are facing.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

David and Heidi respond to the DM’s! This time they discuss the struggle that happens between siblings! How do you get siblings to connect and communicate? David shares a great suggestion that you can start now to help build relationships in your family.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In a world that demands to be defined as one or the other: “yes or no”, “right or wrong”, “true or false”, “up or down”, “good or bad”… Episode 10 discusses a third option.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Heidi brings a big question to David about helping anyone that is struggling with depression. However, she admits that the conversation doesn't go how she thought it would… and this episode really became an important discussion about how important it is to EVOLVE faster, and with more intention in making and building relationships. Follow us on Instagram @lightthefightEmail questions to lightthefightpodcast@gmail.com Be sure to connect with David and Heidi on Instagram @DavidKoz_ and @HeidiSwappAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

David and Heidi respond to the “DM’s”. This particular question has come in from several people… different situations and scenarios, but the question is very similar: how can I motivate my once self-motivated child? David’s advice goes hand in hand with the discussion from episode 8. Find out how to put your relationships first, and increase your influence as a parent.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

How can you make sure that your kids know they did something wrong without losing your temper, and getting MAD? Sometimes parents may feel that it’s their responsibility to SHOW kids how upset they are to ensure kids are aware they are in trouble! David teaches: “the more you blow up, the less you follow up”! Find out what that means, and how to build relationships even when you are mad.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy