The Empowered Parent Podcast

Many of us are growing weary of video calls and spending so much time at home in 2020. Making time for yourself and maintaining a community is even more important now than ever. Kayla, Ryan, and Chris talk about the importance of self care and ways to avoid burnout.  One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | Email | Trauma School | Patreon Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Kayla, Ryan, and Chris look back to the beginnings of the podcast and the journey it has taken each one of them on. From the initial idea to the future of the podcast, they share some of their favorite moments and why this is so important to them. One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | Email | Trauma School | Patreon Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

This is the 100th episode of the Empowered Parent Podcast and Dallas put together a special episode for you to enjoy. The first part is some bloopers to give you a look behind the curtain. The rest of the episode includes clips from the following episodes: Play! (S06 E01) Jillanna Goble (S07 E05) Trauma and the Brain (S04 E10) The Importance of Connection (S02 E01) Better Together (S06 E03) One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | Email | Trauma School | Patreon Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Chris, Kayla, and Ryan are joined one again by Jillana Goble to talk about her experiences as a foster and adoptive mom, how she came to write her book, No Sugar Coating: The Coffee Talk You Need About Foster Parenting, and her work with Embrace Oregon. The latter is an Every Child Oregon initiative, which seeks to help foster children and foster families in the state of Oregon through partnering with their Department of Human Services Child Welfare. Jillana's book is a must-read for anyone thinking about fostering children, for those who do not plan to foster but wish to support those who do, and for foster parents who, in the face of what may seem overwhelming issues, may need reminders of why they started this journey in the first place. Mentioned in this episode Jillana's Website No Sugar Coating: The Coffee Talk You Need About Foster Parenting Embrace Oregon Every Child Oregon The Contingent One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | Email | Trauma School | Patreon Music: "Home"

It's 2020 and school is back in session in one form and another. Chris, Kayla, and Ryan discuss why routines, rhythms, and rituals are important components of family life and how they can help you keep things on track and moving forward. Mentioned in this episode Empowered Parent Podcast Patreon Get Song BPM  One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | Email | Trauma School | Patreon Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Chris, Kayla, and Ryan are joined one again by Jillana Goble to talk about her experiences as a foster and adoptive mom, how she came to write her book, No Sugar Coating: The Coffee Talk You Need About Foster Parenting and her work with Embrace Oregon. The latter is an Every Child Oregon initiative, which seeks to help foster children and foster families in the state of Oregon through partnering with their Department of Human Services Child Welfare. Jillana's book is a must-read for anyone thinking about fostering children, for those who do not plan to foster but wish to support those who do, and for foster parents who, in the face of what may seem overwhelming issues, may need reminders of why they started this journey in the first place. Mentioned in this episode Jillana's Website No Sugar Coating: The Coffee Talk You Need About Foster Parenting Embrace Oregon Every Child Oregon The Contingent One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | Email | Trauma School | Patreon Music: "Home"

Chris, Kayla, and Ryan are joined by Lisa Qualls to talk about her new book, The Connected Parent, co-written with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis. Lisa shares about the writing process between her and Dr. Purvis, and the story of publication after Dr. Purvis' death. The gang talk about the benefits of the book, and how it complements the work of TBRI first presented in The Connected Child. Lisa also discusses her work mentoring adoptive and foster moms through Hope Circle. Mentioned in this episode The Connected Parent The Connected Parent Official Site One Thankful Mom (Lisa's blog) The Hope Circle for Adoptive & Foster Moms One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | Email | Trauma School | Patreon Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Chris, Kayla, and Ryan are joined by Jillana Goble to talk about her experiences as a foster and adoptive mom, how she came to write her book, No Sugar Coating: The Coffee Talk You Need About Foster Parenting, and her work with Embrace Oregon. The latter is an Every Child Oregon initiative, which seeks to help foster children and foster families in the state of Oregon through partnering with their Department of Human Services Child Welfare. Jillana's book is a must-read for anyone thinking about fostering children, for those who do not plan to foster but wish to support those who do, and for foster parents who, in the face of what may seem overwhelming issues, may need reminders of why they started this journey in the first place. Mentioned in this episode Jillana's Website No Sugar Coating: The Coffee Talk You Need About Foster Parenting Embrace Oregon Every Child Oregon The Contingent One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | Email | Trauma School | Patreon Music: "Home" by Moses

Four years ago we gathered around a dining room table one night with some borrowed audio gear, and started sharing about our successes and our failures as parents. We had no idea how much this podcast was needed in the adoption and foster care world. Now, thanks to you, our listeners, we've had more than 300,000 downloads of the podcast. We love that we can play a part in bringing hope, encouragement, and healing to adoptive and foster families. We are so thankful for the people who have poured into us so we could pour into others. We get contacted on a weekly basis by people wanting to advertise on the podcast. We are committed to keeping the podcast AD FREE and only share with you things we actually use at our house. We do however have costs associated with making and producing the podcast. In this special episode, we discuss the launch of a Patreon page to fund our ongoing work. Would you consider playing a part by becoming part of our Patreon family? CLICK HERE to become a patron of the Empowered Pare

A major turning point in our family was when we chose to see difficult behavior as an opportunity for connection. We're not stuck at home with our kids during the coronavirus quarantines, rather we have an opportunity to strengthen the relationship with our children. We have to lead in our homes now more than ever. In that light, we discuss five keys to help parents out: Be flexible and creative Stay structured Be kind Talk about it Stay calm Resources mentioned in this episode Square (Box) Breathing Just Breathe Video Become a patron of the Empowered Parent Podcast We love that we can play a part in bringing hope, encouragement, and healing to families across the world. We are so thankful for the people who have poured into us so we could pour into others. Would you consider supporting our ongoing work by becoming a patron of our podcast? One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | Email | Trauma School Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla continue talking about the COVID-19 crisis and the struggles at home. They discuss heightened levels of anxiety, finding rhythm and routine during an unusual time, as well as learning to be flexible and creative. Resources mentioned in this episode Parenting is a Leadership Exercise Justice for Orphans - Orphans No More Podcast One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | Email | Trauma School Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla discuss the strangeness of the 'shelter in place' world we live in, life slowing down, schooling at home, and challenging behaviors with kids. Mentioned in this episode BUILD: Creating a Foundation of Connection is an interactive learning experience for parents who want to create a foundation of connection between them and their children. CLICK HERE to learn more and register for the class. Use the discount code PODCAST when you check out for 10% off the price of the class. One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | Email | Trauma School Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Kayla, Ryan, and Chris talk about doing the detective work of helping our kids recognize when they are getting stressed. In doing this, we can help them develop strategies to decompress and regulate.  One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Twitter | Email | Podcast Swag Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy Executive Producer: Ryan North

Tapestry Conference 2019 is almost here! The conference will be Friday and Saturday, October 18-19, at Irving Bible Church in Irving, Texas. Chris, Kayla, and Ryan talk about some of the speakers, what attendees can expect, and what they themselves are excited about this year. Podcast listeners can get 10% off the cost of attendance with the code EMPOWEREDPARENT. Register on the conference web site at www.tapestryconference.org Cindy Lee - Children's Books That Teach TBRI-based Lessons to Both Kids AND Parents Making Sense of Your Worth with Cindy Lee Ross King One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Twitter | Email | Podcast Swag Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy Executive Producer: Ryan North

We all rupture the relationship with our kids which allows us opportunities to repair it. Chris, Ryan, and Kayla discuss how to make sure that we are repairing the relationship when we are the ones who rupture it. Repairing relationship hurts let our kids know that they matter and it gives us an opportunity to model humility and making things right. One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Twitter | Email | Podcast Swag Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy Executive Producer: Ryan North

Chris, Kayla, and Ryan welcome Mike and Kristin Berry to talk about their new book, Honestly Adoption. The Berrys are the parents of 8 adopted children and have cared for another 23 as foster parents. They are the founders of Confessions of an Adoptive Parent and together, they host the Honestly Adoption podcast. Their new book is a terrific resource for those considering adoption, as well as those of us who have been in that trenches for years. Resources Mentioned in this Episode Honestly Adoption: Answers to 101 Questions About Adoption and Foster Care - Mike and Kristin Berry One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Twitter | Email | Podcast Swag Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy Executive Producer: Ryan North

Chris, Kayla, and Ryan take on a listener question about Yes Jar, and expound on why it's important to give our kids as many yeses as possible. Giving a yes is an important building block of trust with kids from hard places. Resources Mentioned in this Episode The Yes Jar Are You Looking For An Easy Way to Say Yes More? One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Twitter | Email | Podcast Swag Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy Executive Producer: Ryan North

You may laugh. You may cry. You may decide it's better than "Cats". No, Chris, Ryan, and Kayla aren't singing show tunes in this episode, but they are talking about memories. Implicit vs. explicit, exact reproduction vs. narrative, calm vs. aroused: how do these different types of memories affect our kids' beliefs and behaviors? One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Twitter | Email | Podcast Swag Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy Executive Producer: Ryan North

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla revisit an important topic: helping our kids from hard places feel safe. As adults, we may intellectually know our kids are safe; safe from physical and emotional harm, safe from not having enough to eat, safe from being homeless, or any number of problem areas. That doesn't mean our kids feel safe from those things, so the discussion goes to how we can help them know and feel it. Resources Mentioned in the Episode Empowering Principles: Creating an Environment of Felt Safety - S3E10 One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Twitter | Email | Podcast Swag Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy Executive Producer: Ryan North

Chris wanted to go back to the basics for this episode, so he, Ryan, and Kayla talk about that most important organ in the body: the brain. They dissect—not literally—the components of the brain and talk about how parents of vulnerable children need to pay attention to how things are working in the minds of our kids.  Resources Mentioned in the Episode The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Twitter | Email | Podcast Swag Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy Executive Producer: Ryan North