Coaching Connect Inside Out

Many of us feel the need to fix people who come to us with a problem or issue. It comes from a good place, but people don't need fixing and it's the wrong way to approach things. This week Liz is with Gillian Christison a coach who has a background as a nurse and healthworker.  In recent years she's shifted from trying to fix to supporting others through listening.  Gillian Christison Facebook    

What is the key to listening? It's much simpler than you think. It's got nothing to do with eye contact, or reflecting back what you've heard. Listening has got nothing to do with mirroring someone's actions or nodding in the right place. The true power of listening is in being present. Elizabeth Lovius joins me on this week's podcast as we explore listening. When you realise how simple it really is I guarantee you'll listen to everyone differently.

What the world needs right now is a good listening to. This podcast is one part of a short series that looks specifically at listening. Today I'm speaking former surgeon Dr Giles Croft. We explore how our capacity to listen greatly increases when we understand 'separate realities'. In other words we begin to see how we are all creating our individual interpretation and perception of the world. In this rich conversation we explore: That our experience is dependent on our mood or state of mind at any one time. The best way to listen is to hear someone beyond the weather of their moods It's about being present with nothing on your mind and just listen You can find out more about Giles at his website gilespcroft.com  

Nature is a restorative and healing space of exploration and discovery. Witnessing the cycles of nature as they daily unfold, is one of my deepest joys. That is something that is mirrored by Ian Watson. Ian is a 3P facilitator and homeopath. He believes we all have a yearning to have nature present in our lives: " It's is a requirement for us to participate in the natural world and to not be cut off from it." In this podcast we explore the wisdom and deeper intelligence that is present in the natural world and we explore how this provides a wonderful gateway into exploring our true nature. Ian Watson - theinsightspace.com

Clare Dimond has spent a restless life seek, searching and trying hard to improve herself. She says she never felt quite right and didn't feel that she fitted in. In recent years she came across something that saw an end to this hunt for self-improvement. All the trying has fallen away and she has uncovered something that is universal to human-kind. Clare realises that all of us are actually peaceful, free, alive and fundamentally secure. If this is the case, then why do so many people feel so bad all the time? In this insightful interview Clare shares a clear message of hope.   Clare is the author of several books: 'Free' - 'Sane' - 'Ease' - 'Game' https://claredimond.com

Caroline Brewer has a background in HR and at one time used to be a serial planner and organiser.  She would learn tools, techniques and models to pass on to clients. Now she's happy to turn up and allow conversations to flow without a specific structure in mind. So what happened? In this interview Caroline shares what happened. "Before this understanding (the Inside Out understanding) my ego and self-preservation was top of the agenda" Nowadays... "I love to see peoples minds settle and they are in a different space... (to see) their innate resilience and resourcefulness" Caroline runs retreats and conducts 'conscious conversations' with teachers - she's providing a space for a very different kind of interaction. Designed2Thrive.co.uk

Andrew Bridgewater knows all about depression. He suffered a severe bout of depression and burn out when he was in his mid forties. It left him in a psychiatric hospital for 5 weeks. At the time of his depression he was a qualified psychologist which baffled him. How could someone who had studied the mind and who knew so much about mental illness end up with depression? He’s now fully recovered and supporting others as an author, speaker and stress relief coach. You can find out more about Andrew at his website www.andrewbridgewater.com

When Debra Simmons escaped an abusive relationship she thought her problems would be over. However when the relationship with her children began to suffer she saw fresh problems emerge. It was only when she came across her Inner Compass (through the Three Principles) that he began to realise that she was lost in a world of thought. She also realised that she had been trying to find something in her relationships to make her feel fulfilled: “I saw that my insecurity came from this place that I lacked something and I needed someone else to love me to complete me. So from that place I went into a relationship trying to be loveable trying to get something I hadn’t got.” Join Debra Simmons in this heart warming interview as she explains her journey from living a life of fear and insecurity to living in freedom, love and laughter.

What if there is a new take on mental illness? What if the medical profession began to see beyond the diagnosis and labels?  One psychiatrist Dr Rani Bora, offers real hope to her patients. Rather than focus on the transient thoughts and feelings, Rani wants her patients to see something that is beyond words. She points to the deeper essence and intuitive knowing that there is more to life. Several years ago she had a personal realisation about herself. She realised that she wasn't broken. This has become an important message in her practice. Now she helps her patients see that they are 'lost' rather than 'broken'. "Sometimes they get lost for short term and sometimes they can get lost for a long time but they’re never broken" Website www.drsranisuraj.com Facebook – www.facebook.com/drsranisuraj

What's the missing piece from the message of Christianity? That was the question Lizzie Paish kept asking herself. When she came across the Inside-Out understanding, the Christian message began to resonate more fully for her. She saw that the philosophy of Inside Out which is 'to look within' is something that is also present (but often missed) in the Bible. Bible passages have now taken on fresh energy as Lizzie continues to look within. For example, the Bible often says ‘Do not be afraid’ or ‘Fear not’. Lizzie sees this as reminding us that when we live in fear we are forgetting who we are.  We forget we are connected to a spiritual essence. In this fascinating and frank interview Liz and Lizzie explore Christianity through the lens of the Inner Compass understanding.

Russell Pearson is the Deputy Head at an Exeter primary school. He is acutely aware that mental health is a key issue in all schools. He’s determined not to provide a tokenistic approach to wellbeing. He doesn’t want to provide tick-box staff meetings or training sessions. In this podcast Russell shares his own wellbeing journey. He also explores three areas that have made a big difference to him. That he was seeing life through a lens. That lens was his thinking. It was a huge eye-opener to discover that no two people experience the same situation in the same way. In other words everyone sees the world through their thinking and not the way it actually is. The fluid nature of feelings. Feelings go up and down and they are a symptom of thinking. Feelings are giving feedback on the world ‘out there’ feelings just let you know what you’re thinking in the moment. Wisdom, resilience and resourcefulness is innate. This is probably the key area for Russell. Rather than see wellbeing as something he has to make ti

Stuart Newberry is a wellbeing coach, pointing people towards universal consciousness and oneness. His message is 'you are more than you think you are.' It's a far cry from his former role as a police Detective Superintendent, dealing with some of the most serious crimes in Devon and Cornwall. What happened? In this podcast Stu talks about: his time in Devon and Cornwall police and how he remembers it with great fondness. He retired in 2004. working on challenging cases, like murders, rapes and serious assaults. It was a time of hard work, long hours and he witnessed the worst of human behaviour. But it was also a time of tremendous satisfaction, working with dedicated teams and people. how some of the assumptions he had about criminals began to look different. Rather than see criminals as fundamentally bad people, he realised that these were people that were believing thinking in the moment. They were taking thought as an instruction to behave a certain way, they didn't realise that thinking is transient an

What would it be like if everyone knew that they were okay? That's the message Marie Arymar shares with her young clients. She often meets with troubled young people, who are struggling with life and are confused about what to do next. Marie doesn't cajole, or motivate or try to build confidence; she's got a much more powerful and sustainable way of connecting with young people. She points them back to their inner diamond, to the core of who they are. In this podcast you'll discover how Marie: Overcame her own challenging childhood to take on a pastoral lead at a college. Saw things completely differently when she came across the Inner Compass. Dropped being a victim when she saw that she wasn't at the centre of every thing. Life wasn't all about her, life was impersonal. Marie realises that the best support she can be for her young clients is to highlight their wellbeing. "I have a huge torch and I shine it back on their beautiful diamond and the innate wellness that they've always had and always will have

What if communities were founded on wellbeing? What difference would that make to the way we connect with each other? In January 2020 liz started an experiment in her local community Ivybridge. The project is called #ivybridgewellbeing and it is designed to explore the wealth of wellbeing, inspiration and good-heartedness that is already present in the town. They recorded this after the first week of the experiment. In this episode Liz and Stu reflect on the extraordinary wellbeing, resilience and resourcefulness that we all have access to. When people in communities connect to this natural power within, imagine what that would be like.

Many people are reticent about sharing the Inside-Out understanding. They are worried they don't know enough and they need to do more training to get ready. If you're the kind of person that says, 'I'll share this when, I've read more books OR I've been on another course OR I know more" Then this is for you. In today's podcast Liz and Stu bust some of the common myths that hold people back. There are three questions that they look at: Should I wait before sharing the Inside-Out understanding with others? What are the advantages of taking the step to share? What will I learn when I share with others?  Let us know what you think of the podcast - we'd love to hear from you Website: Innercompassguide.com Twitter: Innercompassliz Innercompassstu Linkedin: Liz Scott Instagram: Inner_compass_liz

If you've ever got caught in the cycle of yo yo dieting, then you'll know the frustration of going on a strict eating plan, losing weight and then putting it straight back on again. What if there is a different way to healthy eating? What if it's not about building your willpower, but instead it is about understanding how the human mind actually works. This podcast will explain why faddy diets don't work - but there is good news. In this interview I went to speak to Paola Royal a Wellbeing & Resilience Coach& Nutritional Therapist. We explore how healthy eating doesn't need to be a tough slog. All you need is to understand the Inner Compass and to see how the mind actually works.   Join us at the Inner Compass to explore a new psychological understanding that is transforming communities https://innercompassguide.com Paola Royal:healthylivingwithpaolaroyal.co.uk  

  How can horses help those in mental distress? Deep in the heart of Devon two Arab geldings are playing a key role in supporting adults and young people in a therapeutic setting. We went to visit Belinda Seaward, Jo Frodsham and the two beautiful animals Dragonfly and Sherani to find out what they're up to. A recent course has been for women who have experienced abuse and another course supported service personnel with PTSD. A fascinating exploration into the true "It's deep inner work that we're doing here" "Horses are deeply sensitive to where you are at emotionally ... and they reflect your energy back to you" "We've embedded the Inside-Out understanding into our courses ... there's something about the connection between horses and people that allows people to access a deeper intuitive intelligence.'   Website: Innercompassguide.com Twitter: Innercompassliz Innercompassstu Linkedin: Liz Scott Instagram: Inner_compass_liz

What use is a spiritual/psychological understanding (the Inner Compass) when you've just gone through heart surgery? This is the question we explore in this podcast. Stu Newberry was diagnosed with heart disease in 2018 and then went through heart surgery in August 2019. Here's some of what Stu had to say: "It's so easy to get in crazy thinking about what may or may not happen with the health condition,' .... "The Inner Compass is the bit that says 'it doesn't make sense to indulge that thinking because you're already OK." How can you 'be OK' if you have heart disease? That's another question Stu answers in this honest interview that shines a light on trusting your own navigation system (the Inner Compass).   Website: Innercompassguide.com Twitter: Innercompassliz Innercompassstu Linkedin: Liz Scott Instagram: Inner_compass_liz

How can the traumatic issue of suicide be expressed in art? It's a question that artist Carly Jones has been answering over the past two years. Her MA art project took a complete change of direction when a family member took his own life. This suicide had a severe impact on the whole family and in particular Carly's partner Damon. He found himself re-experiencing a severe episode of PTSD and struggling with his mental health. Both Damon and Carly found significant relief when they came across the Inside Out understanding. Carly's art project is an exploration between the stark, sad statistics of suicide, along with the hopeful message of innate wellbeing and resilience. Website: Innercompassguide.com Twitter: Innercompassliz Innercompassstu Linkedin: Liz Scott Instagram: Inner_compass_liz

What if you knew that wellbeing was constant in your life? What if regardless of the emotional turmoil, you always knew you were OK? This week, community worker, Siobain Kelly shares her journey since learning about the Inner Compass through the Wellbeing Ambassador training. She finds she's more able to go with the flow and not overthinking things all the time. Here are some of the things she had to say: ".. now life is just lighter" "I'm not spending time ruminating on things" "I now know I've always got wellbeing - I know everyone else has got it, it's not just me" Join us on this Inner Compass podcast as we explore the best way to move on from Stress, speaking to people as they discover the secret to wellbeing. Website: Innercompassguide.com Twitter: Innercompassliz Innercompassstu Linkedin: Liz Scott Instagram: Inner_compass_liz