Gender Reveal

Tuck catches up with author and podcast host Gaby Dunn (they/them). Topics include: Refusing to be palatable  Working through internalized transphobia Revisiting Gaby’s very trans “token cis” interview Pushing for better representation in Hollywood Plus: living behind the matrix, throwing money out the window, and crying in a pool in Palm Springs This Week in Gender: The US is changing its rules regarding gender markers on passports. You can find Gaby on Instagram (@gabyroad) and TikTok (@dabygunn), and on the Bad with Money and Just Between Us podcasts. Read “Giving Poppers to Cis Women” by Drew Gregory on Autostraddle. Find our full list of grant winners at genderpodcast.com. Support the grant program by joining us on Patreon (patreon.com/gender) — you’ll also receive our weekly newsletter and other rewards.  We’re on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Browse our nonprofit merch shop at bit.ly/gendermerch. Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2. Associate Producer: Julia Llinas Goodma

Tuck catches up with musician Mal Blum (they/them). Topics include: Going on testosterone as a professional singer Being mistaken for someone’s str8 husband Are we gonna get clocked in the men’s restroom? The many trans plot lines of Star Trek Plus: shopping for couches and becoming the transsexual John Darnielle This Week in Gender: Happy Pride ™ from Raytheon, ICE, and Sensodyne. Find Mal across social media @MalBlum. We’re on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Browse our nonprofit merch shop at bit.ly/gendermerch. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter, plus stickers and other rewards. Find episode transcripts and our FAQ page at genderpodcast.com. Do you have gender-related questions that you’d like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form. Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2. Associate Producer: Julia Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Additional Music: Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Bistitchual

Tuck chats with John Paul Brammer, author of ¡Hola Papi!, in the second half of this special two-part queer advice episode. Topics include: Combating identity imposter syndrome (“am I queer enough?”) Not being wholesome enough for Pet Twitter The tyranny of authenticity Why it’s perfectly fine to experience joy right now Plus: Where does the wind come from? Dear Evan Hanson isn’t gay? Why can’t we escape Twitter? And why has no one ever been in love with me? If you want to avoid suicidality talk, skip 21:00-23:30. Buy ¡Hola Papi! wherever books are sold (lol) and subscribe to the ¡Hola Papi! Substack (I do!). Find JP’s art and merch at holapapishop.com. John Paul is trapped on Twitter @jpbrammer. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Browse our nonprofit merch shop at bit.ly/gendermerch. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter, plus stickers and other rewards. Find episode transcripts and our FAQ page at genderpodcast.com. Do you have gender-related questions tha

Tuck chats with Maddy Court (she/her), author of The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend Is My Girlfriend, in the first half of this special two-part queer advice episode. Topics include: Good(!) advice for meeting people w/o using Tinder The bright spots of being single  *~*~*horny summer~*~*~ hot tips? Is everyone having more sex than us?!  Plus: grotesque feminism, queer scarcity, and imagining sexier futures This Week in Gender: The Dept. of Education says that Title IX protects trans students, and the VA pledges to cover gender confirming surgeries. (Hear a trans vet’s thoughts on military service in Episode 64.) Buy The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend Is My Girlfriend anywhere books are sold, and support Maddy’s work by subscribing to the Xena Worrier Princess Substack (I do!). Find Maddy’s good gay memes on Instagram @xenaworrierprincess. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Browse our nonprofit merch shop at bit.ly/gendermerch. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our w

Tuck catches up with zine-maker and pornographer Carta Monir (she/her). Topics include: What porn archives can teach us about queer history From castration fantasies to making fan merch for your dick Kink at pride(?!) and the evolution of queer debates Plus: Topping fears, machine-f*cking, unauthorized Girl with the Dragon Tattoo sequels, and CATS (1998) This Week in Gender: Los Gibities. Find Carta’s work at cartamonir.com and DiskettePress.com. Carta is on OnlyFans (onlyfans.com/carta), Patreon (patreon.com/carta), Twitter (@cartamonir, @XXXcartaXXX) and Instagram (@cartamonir).  Listen to Untold Stories: Beyond the Binary here or watch it on YouTube. Browse our nonprofit merch shop at bit.ly/gendermerch. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter, plus stickers and other rewards. Find episode transcripts and our FAQ page at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Tod

Tuck catches up with nonbinary linguist Kirby Conrod (they/them). Topics include:  Are pronoun-go-arounds for cis people? Gender as a local social relationship  Neurodivergent life hacks  Writing a dissertation about they/them pronouns Plus: wizard gender!  This Week in Gender: NYC Pride has banned GOAL from marching in the parade for the next four years. Find Kirby's work on their website (kirbyconrod.com), their blog (kconrod.medium.com), and their twitter (@kirbyconrod). Find episode transcripts and our FAQ page at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter, plus stickers and other rewards. Browse our nonprofit merch shop at bit.ly/gendermerch. Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2. Do you have gender-related questions that you’d like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’

Hey everyone! Sorry for the late notice, but our grant program is open now through April 30. More details in this tiny episode.  Grant: genderpodcast.com/grant Newsletter: patreon.com/gender Merch: bit.ly/gendermerch Tuck's workshops/consulting/etc: sylveon.co For more frequent updates, we're on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. We're also at genderpodcast.com Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder

Tuck speaks with activist and author Jeffrey Marsh (they/them). (CW: mentions of transphobia and suicidality.) Topics include:  Why labels can’t fix bigotry Talking about transness on conservative TV Dealing with transphobic internet comments Is feeling fake or alone fundamental to being trans? Plus: Mr. Rogers, Tumblr, Buddhism, Jeffrey's next book, and getting angry about shoes.  This Week in Gender: Parents in England can now consent to puberty blockers on their children’s behalf, creating a loophole in Bell v. Tavistock. Find episode transcripts and our new FAQ page at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal.  Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter, plus stickers and other rewards. Do you have gender or relationship questions that you’d like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form. Browse our nonprofit merch shop at bit.ly/gendermerch. Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2. Submit a piece of T

Tuck speaks with Francisco J. Galarte (he/him). Dr. Galarte is the author of Brown Trans Figurations and a founding editor of TSQ: Transgender Studies Quarterly.  Topics include:  When to use (and avoid) the “x” in Latinx and Chicanx Why hate crime laws don't help trans people of color  Imagining a world for trans POC beyond invisibility and hyper-visibility What does masculinity even mean??? Plus: fashion, evil deceivers, and our second consecutive reference to the Kardashians This Week in Gender: Trans story tropes. For more, listen to our interview with Kai Cheng Thom. Find episode transcripts and our new FAQ page at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal.  Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter and other rewards. Browse our March merch collection at bit.ly/gendermerch. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s messages were from Galaxy Community Circle and Person Who. Join the Gender Detectives S

Tuck speaks with Torrey Peters (she/her), author of Detransition, Baby. Topics include:  A brief history of t4t tattoos The secrets of real-life trans supervillains Why Torrey's moving past trans separatism  Four generations of trans history buried in a twitter beef Plus: FTF transsexuals, disaster euphoria, writing better jokes, and why Torrey might be done writing about affairs with wealthy men This Week in Gender: Mississippi bans trans women & girls from school sports. We’re on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal.  Browse our March merch collection at bit.ly/gendermerch. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter and other rewards. Find episode transcripts and our new FAQ page at genderpodcast.com. Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

Tuck answers more advice questions with BFF of the show Zee Griffler (they/them). Topics include: How do I come out to my boyfriend? Can cis people use X gender markers? Is a relationship automatically queer if someone is trans? What does it feel like to like your name? Do my birth certificate and license need to match? Do you have gender questions that you’d like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form. Browse our March merch collection at bit.ly/gendermerch. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter and other rewards. Find our new FAQ page, starter packs and episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2. Producer: Zee Griffler Special thanks to Babette Thomas Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

Tuck answers advice questions with Tehya (they/them), a nonbinary therapist. Topics include: Are my recent dysphoria feelings “real”?  Do I have to share my pronouns? How do I handle my partner’s transphobic friend?  Why do I think I’m going to get dumped for having top surgery? Plus: sailing, cis binding, and a return to lesbianism.  This Week in Gender: The Equality Act, Marjorie vs Marie, Dr. Levine vs Rand Paul, federal X markers, a win in Virginia, transphobia in Montana, nonbinary potatoes, Gallup lesbians, Lady Gaga’s dogs, and Patti Harrison vs Nabisco. Do you have gender questions that you’d like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form. We’re on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal.  Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter and other rewards. Find our new FAQ page, starter packs and episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Spon

Tuck speaks with Noah Adams (he/him), co-author of Trans and Autistic. Topics include: Are transness and autism connected in some way? The compounding gatekeeping faced by autistic trans people The dark connections between ABA and queer conversion therapy The enduring legacy of Rain Man This Week in Gender: Special guest Nina Medvedeva talks about the Euphoria app and trans venture capitalism.  Purchase Trans and Autistic through Another Story (Canada) or Bookshop (US). We’re on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal.  Browse our February merch collection at bit.ly/gendermerch. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter and other rewards. Find our new FAQ page(!) and episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from Maluli Consulting.  Do you have gender questions that you’d like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously

Tuck speaks with culture and entertainment journalist Tre’vell Anderson (they/them). Topics include: What Black film history can tell us about the future of trans media Are those nonbinary TV characters actually nonbinary? Why don’t some nonbinary people identify as trans? Should we be saying “All Black Lives Matter”?  Plus: identity gumbo and gender-okra soup This Week in Gender: Several states are advancing anti-trans bills, in direct opposition to Biden’s executive order boosting LGBTQ legal protections. Subscribe to Tre’vell’s podcast, FANTI. We’re on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal.  Find our new FAQ page(!) at genderpodcast.com. Browse our February merch collection at bit.ly/gendermerch. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter and other rewards. Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2. Do you have gender questions that you’d like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Ad

Tuck speaks with artist, filmmaker, and cultural producer Zackary Drucker (she/her). Topics include: How a trans con artist taught Zackary to cut herself some slack  Telling complicated trans stories on TV Creating T4T representation before “T4T” was a thing Gender clownery with Flawless Sabrina  Plus: Commissioning a transphobia montage featuring Tucker Carlson’s shitty dad This Week in Gender: New York finally repeals its Walking While Trans law.  The Lady and the Dale is streaming now on HBOMax.  Zackary is on Instagram @zackarydrucker. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal.  Find transcripts of the show at genderpodcast.com. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter and other rewards. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from Em Solarova and “Person Who”.  Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2. Do you have gender questions that you’d like answered on the show? Submit questions anony

Tuck speaks with Diamond Stylz (she/her), creator of Marsha’s Plate and executive director of Black Trans Women Inc. Topics include: Does trans representation actually help trans people? Why trans equity trainings don’t work The importance of spurning sea lions and building community How Lauryn Hill (of all people) helped Diamond embrace her voice How to be a true ally & co-conspirator  Plus: Coming out in the ‘90s, finding a HRT specialist in the yellow pages and being a trans YouTuber in 2008. BONUS! Other Black queer podcasts Diamond recommends: Box No. 512 Podcast: Grown Black Trans Women Talk; Inner Hoe Uprising; QueerWOC; Tea with Queen and J. This Week in Gender: We revisit Paige Kreisman’s views on trans military service and celebrate the singular talent of SOPHIE. Support Diamond’s work by donating at blacktranswomen.org/donate and supporting Marsha’s Plate on Patreon.  You can find Diamond on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and YouTube @DiamondStylz. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendere

Tuck speaks with scholar and Trans Care author Hil Malatino (he/they). Topics include: Why we can’t talk about gender without talking about race How Hil’s intersex condition—and health insurance—influenced his transition Why debates about labels are debates about belonging Trans academia and the “cannibalization” of trans scholars Plus: Dad-as-gender, the best little boy in the world, and the difference between genders and Gender This Week in Gender: Dr. Rachel Levine was nominated to be the US assistant secretary of health. Support Hil’s work by purchasing Trans Care from University of Minnesota Press and Queer Embodiment from University of Nebraska Press. There’s also an open-access copy of Trans Care available here. Authors cited: María Lugones, C. Riley Snorton (Black on Both Sides), Susan Stryker, Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha (Care Work) You can follow us on Twitter and Instagram (@gendereveal). Find transcripts of the show at genderpodcast.com. Browse our January merch collection at bit.ly/gender

Tuck speaks with multimedia artist and Black Feast founder Salimatu Amabebe (he/they). Topics include: Feeling denied access to "womanhood" as a Black person Loving your body as a trans person Dating advice!  “I don’t really want terms that apply to me” Plus: Salimatu pitches you his food-dom TV pilot  This Week in Gender: Bell v Tavistock.  Support Salimatu’s work via Venmo (@blackfeast) or Cash App (@blackfeast, @salimatuamabebe). Follow Salimatu on IG @black.feast and @salimatuamabebe. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram (@gendereveal).  Find transcripts of the show at genderpodcast.com. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter and other rewards. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from Heebie Jeebies Jewelry. Browse our limited-edition merch collection at bit.ly/gendermerch. (Hurry, everything leaves the store on 1/31.) Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2. Do you have gender questions tha

Tuck speaks with lawyer and TLC-reality-special star Ari Robbins Greene (they/he). Topics include: Giving birth on a TV show Pregnancy advice for transmasculine folks  Raising babies without gendering them  Fighting to get insurance companies to cover FFS Plus: telling your coworkers about your secret vagina  This Week in Gender: Democrats in Congress pass a resolution to de-gender terminology in the House Rules (via Snopes). Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter and other rewards. We also welcome donations via PayPal, Cash App, or Venmo.  Find episode transcripts and other resources at genderpodcast.com.  We’re also on Twitter or Instagram @gendereveal. Our host is @tuckwoodstock.  Browse our limited-edition merch collection at bit.ly/gendermerch.  Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2. Do you have gender questions that you’d like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form. Special thanks this week to Ally Stoneham. Editor: Bab

Tuck speaks with author and community worker Kai Cheng Thom (she/her) in our longest episode ever. Topics include: The harm of problematic/pure and perpetrator/victim binaries The evolution of “femme” and “transsexual” The future of trans kids and class solidarity Losing faith, but not hope, in community justice Plus: Spicy trans memoir takes, Kai Cheng’s secret Goop life, and being the only masters-credentialed trans woman therapist in Canada This Week in Gender: A federal judge strikes down a transphobic policy in Ohio; Argentina now has a 1% employment quota for trans people in the public sector; and Joe Biden transes his transition team.   Authors referenced: Mariame Kaba, Sarah Schulman, Porpentine Charity Heartscape, adrienne maree brown, Janet Mock, Imogen Binnie (Nevada) Buy Kai Cheng’s books: A Place Called No Homeland (poetry), Fierce Femmes and Notorious Liars (fiction), I Hope We Choose Love (essays) and From the Stars in the Sky to the Fish in the Sea (picture book).  Join our Patreon (pa