Gender Reveal

Happy Trans Day of Snack! We’re explaining today’s mutual aid campaign (including FREE SNACKS for trans people in 26 US states) and sharing a sneak peek of our snack-packed chat with Lilith K, tweeter of that famous tweet.  Our full interview with Lilith is available here. Find Lilith at @deathcarpets and on the podcasts Ghostpuncher Corps and Diet Coke & Lilith’s House of Snax. Sign up to receive your snack and/or financial aid at bit.ly/tdos2023. View our list of trans resources at bit.ly/tdos23links. Donate to our mutual aid/snack fund via PayPal, Cash App ($TuckWoodstock) or Venmo (@Tuck-Woodstock). Our limited edition TDoS merch is available through March 31 at bit.ly/gendermerch. Use code SNACK for 10% off. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Our patrons! Thank you!

Tuck chats with actor and writer Ryan Ken (they/them). Topics include:  Why a TikTok can be more useful than a DEI training Using fashion strategically as a fat, Black, queer, nonbinary person When astrology can be reminiscent of Evangelical Christianity Why masculinity, not femininity, felt fragile and delicate as a child Plus: classical violin, Last Week Tonight, and moving beyond allyship This Week in Gender: Ryan’s TikTok videos about The New York Times and Beauty & the Beast.  Find Ryan on TikTok, Twitter and Instagram @ryan_ken_acts. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our monthly bonus podcast, weekly newsletter, and other fun perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Pitch to Tuck’s all-trans Fast & Furious zine thing, why not? Our merch shop is at bit.ly/gendermerch, and you can submit your own designs designs at gendereveal[at]gmail[dot]com. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small

Tuck chats live in Brooklyn with AC Dumlao (they/he), Mattie Lubchansky (they/them) and Io (they/them). Topics include:  Changing your legal name to facilitate your Wendy’s order Why gaslighting your family is the transmasc experience  Reading the dictionary to find out if your boyfriend is queer  Putting a basketball in your Irreversible Damage hole  Plus: Gaylor thoughts, community theater gender journeys, swiping on Grimblr, and establishing a parliament of gender failures.  This Week in Gender: Sign the New York Times open letter at nytletter.com.  Find AC @mx.acdumlao. Find Io via their print shop and new podcast. Preorder Mattie’s book Boys Weekend right now!!!  Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to experience our live show game with Sabrina Imbler, plus other bonus episodes and perks. Send merch sketches to gendereveal[at]gmail[dot]com.  Pitch to Tuck’s all-trans Fast & Furious zine thing, why not? Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s messag

Tuck checks in with BFF of the show Mckenzee Griffler (she/her). Topics include:  Speedrunning gender Special girl bottom surgery Getting comfortable with public voice training Finally not thinking about gender at all times constantly(!) Plus: toe gender, breakfast sandwich crimes, and gender podcast good actually?!  This Week in Gender: Unholy underwhelms Satanists, per TMZ. (Learn more on Eating for Free.) Find Mckenzee at mckenzeegriffler.com and opensanctuary.org. Her Gender Conceal advice episode is available on our Patreon. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s messages were from New Cosmologies and Israel Lopez. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our monthly bonus podcast, weekly newsletter, and other fun perks. Join the Gender Detectives Slack here. (Link expires in 3 weeks.) Find episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMu

Tuck speaks with hacktivist maia arson crimew (it/she). Topics include:  Takeaways from the No Fly List leak  Why “white hat” and “black hat” hacking is another false binary An argument against copyright laws Which came first, the hacker or the catgirl? Plus: bi lesbians, bingle, and the one time horseshoe theory was real?? Find maia @_nyancrimew and at maia.crimew.gay. Its excellent merch is available on Teepublic. Tickets for our Feb. 1 Brooklyn live show are on sale now!  Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our monthly bonus podcast, weekly newsletter, and other fun perks. Find episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Associate Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderSponsors: DeleteMe (promo code: TUCK20)

Tuck speaks with DEI strategist Lily Zheng (they/them). Topics include:  Why pizza can be more useful than a 60-minute workshop Can we DEI our way out of transphobic workplaces? What makes allyship performative? (It’s not what you think!) Should corporations be hosting Trans Day of Remembrance events? Plus: does DEI work delay the proletarian revolution?? This Week in Gender: an exclusive Gender Conceal clip with Kirby Conrod about all things -ussy.   Find Lily at lilyzheng.co and on LinkedIn. Listen to Tuck on NPR’s It’s Been a Minute. Tickets for our Feb. 1 Brooklyn live show are on sale now!  Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our monthly bonus podcast, weekly newsletter, and other fun perks. Find episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Associate Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: Blue Dot Sess

Tuck speaks with gender-affirming voice teacher Renée Yoxon (they/them). Topics include:  How do we modify the perceived gender of our voices? What exactly causes a “t-voice”? What does nonbinary vocal training sound like? How do mobility aids affect the way your gender is perceived? Plus: Maverique gender, jazz, and how the two dogs inside of you can change your vocal resonance!? This Week in Gender: Elevated Access and the International Society of Nonbinary Scientists (ISNBS) Find Renée at reneeyoxon.com and @reneeyoxon everywhere. Tickets for our Feb. 1 Brooklyn live show are on sale now!  Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our monthly bonus podcast, weekly newsletter, and other fun perks. Find episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Associate Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Elemental Asteroid” and “Pop Vibration” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Bluestockings and DeleteMe

Tuck speaks with author and podcast host Margaret Killjoy (she/they). Topics include:  What to consider before moving to a queer off-grid land project Suing RENT (2005) to get credit for playing melodica!? The secret rules of writing heterosexual romance novels Easy, actionable ways that we can all prepare for disasters Plus: Feminazgûl, high school GSAs, anarchism, and exploding the czar This Week in Gender: It’s our fifth anniversary, baby! Find Margaret on Cool People Who Did Cool Stuff and Live Like the World Is Dying, and at birdsbeforethestorm.net. Her books are available from AK Press. Tickets for our Feb. 1 Brooklyn live show are on sale now!  Do you have an advice question that you’d like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our monthly bonus podcast, weekly newsletter, and other fun perks. Find episode transcripts and a full list of grant winners at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @g

Tuck speaks with musician Alynda Mariposa Segarra (they/them) of Hurray for the Riff Raff. Topics include:  Crashing a blockbuster film set in a jangly key bikini Refusing to be made a spectacle (as a nonbinary Puerto Rican and a former train-hopping crust(y) punk) What do adrienne maree brown, Julian Casablancas, Sylvia Rivera and the Young Lords have in common? Coming back into your body after dissociating for a decade  Plus: pisces vs cancers, getting middle-name deadnamed, and walking knowingly into the apocalypse  This Week in Gender: Harry Josephine Giles explains how Scotland's good gender news might take down the United Kingdom. Find Alynda @hurrayfortheriffraff on IG, @HFTRR on Twitter, @alyndamarisposa on TikTok, and at hurrayfortheriffraff.com. Tickets for our Feb. 1 Brooklyn live show are on sale now! Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from Fat Folks Tarot. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our monthly bonus

Tuck speaks with māhū artist Lehuauakea (they/them). Topics include:  Should you be going to Hawaii???? Being cornered, exotified and spat on(!) by white patrons Native Hawaiian gender terms and cultural roles The past, present, and future of kapa-making Plus: Finding faith that the world will continue to exist, lol? This Week in Gender: More about drivers license gender markers, including stats from California and another story from Rosemary.  Find Lehuauakea’s work at lehuauakea.com and @_lehuauakea_ on IG. (The account Lehuauakea recommends in the ep is @ainamomona.) Tickets for our Feb. 1 Brooklyn live show are on sale now! Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our monthly bonus podcast, weekly newsletter, and other fun perks. Find episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Associate Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Pat Dog” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Bluestockings and Del

It's a Christmas miracle — we've got tickets on sale to our February 1st live show, feauting four of your favorite Gender Reveal alumni.  Get your tickets here while you can!  

Tuck speaks with organizer and educator Dean Spade (he/him). Topics include:  Why civil rights laws won’t save us Common mutual aid struggles: money, security culture, etc. Why does burnout convince us that we can’t take a break? Reflections 20 years after founding the Sylvia Rivera Law Project Plus: dinosaur gender, x markers, and talking people out of law school This Week in Gender: The Texas government tried to make a database of residents who changed their gender markers.  Find Dean’s work at BigDoorBrigade.com, PinkwashingExposed.net and linktr.ee/deanspade. Visit DeanSpade.net for more info on Mutual Aid, videos from past workshops, and many other resources. Find Tuck on the Rainbow Parenting podcast! Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our monthly bonus podcast (featuring more of this conversation!), weekly newsletter, and other fun perks. Find episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message

Tuck speaks with writer and creature enthusiast Sabrina Imbler (they/them). Topics include:  A Who’s Who of the ocean’s notable transsexuals  Writing about trans youth for the New York Times (lol, lmao) Seeking gender role models from creatures, plants, and fungi Why is a sad octopus more heartbreaking than a sad human? Plus: Neopets, the Great Dyke of Zimbabwe, and a goldfish driving a tank(?!) This Week in Gender: Carl Charles shares a trans Supreme Court update. Find Sabrina on Twitter @aznfusion and on tour. Their work is available on Defector and at simbler.github.io. How Far the Light Reaches is out on Dec 6, and Dyke (Geology) is available now from Black Lawrence Press. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our monthly bonus podcast, weekly newsletter, and other fun perks. Browse our nonprofit merch shop at bit.ly/gendermerch. Find episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll

Tuck speaks with Eating for Free cohost Joan Summers (she/her)  Topics include:  Getting outed by your pastor’s wife in a movie theater parking lot Why celebrities should come out via strategic trips to CVS  Union organizing for trans healthcare… and how it can go wrong Why do famous people love the word pansexual? Plus: Should we put Harry Styles on trial for gender crimes? This Week in Gender: You can read the Daniel Aston tributes here and here and read another special message here.  (Also: oh, it’s a shark tornado!) Find Joan @laracroftbarbie and on Eating for Free. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our monthly bonus podcast, weekly newsletter, and other fun perks. Browse our nonprofit merch shop at bit.ly/gendermerch. Find episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s messages were from Quest Ed and Zera Bloom. Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: I

Tuck speaks with poet and drag artist Wo Chan (they/them), who performs as the Illustrious Pearl. Topics include:  Re-evaluating the narrative of your book after starting psychoanalysis Combining poetry and drag performance into… PowerPoint drag! Creating art out of testimonials from your family’s deportation proceedings Learning to share without oversharing — and without judging yourself for oversharing Plus: Ostrich feathers, Cantopop, loneliness, poop poems, and the stage as a sacrificial altar.  This Week in Gender: We recap the US midterm elections and discuss the concept of “Queering Congress” (lol lmao) Find Wo on Instagram @theillustriouspearl. Togetherness is available now from Nightboat Books. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our monthly bonus podcast, weekly newsletter, and other fun perks. Browse our nonprofit merch shop at bit.ly/gendermerch. Find episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Submit a piece of Theymail: a smal

In the second half of this special two-part episode, Tuck speaks with organizer and library worker Dakota Hommes (she/her). Topics include:  Organizing the first library union in the state(!) Missouri’s ban on “explicit” books in schools Transition as a spiritual experience  Plus: Narwhal facts, TikTok, and trans Harry Potter fanfic. Find Dakota on Instagram @dakotahommes and on TikTok @dakota.danger. (Visit her Linktree for the merch and fanfic that we reference in the interview.) Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our monthly bonus podcast, weekly newsletter, and other fun perks. Browse our nonprofit merch shop at bit.ly/gendermerch. Find episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s messages were from Ad Creeps and Teaching While Queer. Associate Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderSponsors: Queer Candle Co. (promo

In the first half of this special two-part episode, Tuck speaks with Starbucks Workers United organizer Spencer (they/she). Topics include:  Maintaining a 24/7 picket line for a 64-day-long strike(!) What is the best way to support the Starbucks union and employees? Why are union organizers disproportionately trans?  Plus: The literal Pinkertons and the future of labor.  Find Spencer and their coworkers on Twitter at @bostonsbwu. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our monthly bonus podcast, weekly newsletter, and other fun perks. Browse our nonprofit merch shop at bit.ly/gendermerch. Find episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s messages were from Craft or DIY and Allyship is a Verb. Associate Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderSponsors: Queer Candle Co. (promo code: GENDER10)

Tuck speaks with comedian, performer, and event producer Howie Echo-Hawk (they/them). Topics include:  What do pronoun go-arounds and land acknowledgements have in common? Is it even possible to decolonize gender? Why your comedy can’t come solely from suffering Using nature to explore identity beyond language Plus: Dance parties, autism superpowers, and punishment comedy  This Week in Gender: The past and future of the US Trans Survey, which is available until November 21 at ustranssurvey.org. (You can read the full 2015 survey results here. The 2019 NCTE staff’s open letter is here, and our segment about the Euphoria apps is in Episode 88 with Noah Adams.) Read Decolonization Is Not a Metaphor here. Find Howie on Instagram @howieechohawk, @indigenizeproductions, @_theresmore_ and @everynativeepisode. Find Every Native Episode here, and listen to Howie on the Deep End Friends podcast. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our monthly bonus podcast, weekly newsletter, and other fun pe

Tuck speaks with Cat Fitzpatrick (she/her), author of The Call-Out and cofounder of LittlePuss Press. Topics include:  Writing about Brooklyn trans girl drama in iambic tetrameter  Searching for answers on the Transsexual Internet Circa 2001 Running a small press that doubles as a community org (aka lessons learned from Topside) Why is it so hard for (trans) people of goodwill to build a functional community, let alone a just one? Plus: Cameoing in your fiction using the meanest DM you’ve ever received   This Week in Gender: Rosemary deserves a sword.  Find Cat @intermittentcat and at catfitzpatrick.net. Follow LittlePuss @LittlePussPress and littlepuss.net, and on tour now through Nov 5. The Call-Out, Faltas, and Meanwhile, Elsewhere are all available now.  Listen to Tuck on Normal Gossip! Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our monthly bonus podcast, weekly newsletter, and other fun perks. Browse our nonprofit merch shop at bit.ly/gendermerch. Find episode transcripts and grant info at

Tuck tackles more advice questions with BFF of the show Mckenzee Griffler (she/her). Topics include: How should I balance my partner's comfort with my own transition? How can I get my family to fully accept my transition? Why does my child keep misgendering me? Would it be inconsiderate of me to share my pronouns?  Are feminine names going extinct? This Week in Gender: Listeners share their wins, including Carl Charles, Naseem Jamnia and Queer Society Yukon. Listen to Tuck’s Life Kit episode about how to change your name.  Do you have gender questions that you’d like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our new bonus podcast feed, plus our weekly newsletter and other fun perks. Browse our nonprofit merch shop at bit.ly/gendermerch. Find episode transcripts and starter packs for new listeners at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/gender-slac