Gender Reveal

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with writer and Ph.D. student Ari LaRae Monts (they/them), whose research focuses on queer women of color and non-binary people of color. Topics include: Grappling with family trauma by writing a love letter to butch queers. Using federal dollars to study queer SM communities of color. Rethinking “femme” as an identity beyond an aesthetic. Practicing Christianity as a queer and trans person. Exploring nonbinary identity at A-Camp. Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here. Find Alaina’s writing on Autostraddle, and follow them on Twitter (@alaraemonts). Send us your comments, questions, and feelings at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. Donate $5+ to receive stickers and other fun stuff. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with cartoonist Mattie Lubchansky (they/them). Topics include:  Coming out as queer and genderqueer as an ancient dinosaur. Googling “Matt[ie] Lubchansky gender” (and finding tomatoes). Nike’s pink triangle shoes—yikes! The flourishing world of queer comics! Read more about our This Week in Gender topics here and here and here. Check out the comics we mentioned on the show: “Visibility Has Its Rewards: Six Cartoonists on Gender and Transition” “Compared To What” “Brands Love Pride!” “The History of the Rainbow Flag” Find more of Mattie’s work at the Nib, and follow them on Twitter for some top-notch content. You can also support them on Patreon to get a sneak peek of their newest project. Send us your comments, questions, and feelings at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. Donate $5+ to receive stickers and other fun stuff. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Bre

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with Indigenous Diné transdisciplinary artist Demian DinéYazhi´(they/them). Demian is the founder and director of the artist/activist initiative R.I.S.E.: Radical Indigenous Survivance & Empowerment. Topics include: “The only option for being queer was death. And the only option for being a Native person was death, as well.” Decolonializing concepts of sex, love, gender identity, and sexual orientation for future generations. Defining “radical indigenous queer feminism.” Creating resources and platforms for queer, trans, and Two-Spirit Indigenous artists. Growing up queer during the AIDS crisis. Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here and here. (And please let us know your thoughts!) Find Damien’s work on Tumblr and Etsy. Damien is also on Instagram at @heterogeneoushomosexual and @riseindigenous. Send us your comments, questions, and feelings at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We greatly appreciate do

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with musician Mal Blum (they/them). Topics include: Is NYC Pride™ evil? Depression tips (and how medication doesn’t fix being constantly misgendered) Questioning the value systems of gay bars Uploading your gender onto the server! Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here, here, here, and here. Read Mal’s Autostraddle article about NYC Pride here. Send us your comments, questions, and feelings at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. Donate $5+ to receive stickers in the mail! Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with writer and scientist Naseem Jamnia (they/them). Topics include: Why biological sex isn’t a binary (and why everything you learned in biology class is wrong) Busting myths around Islam and queerness Is it a good idea to prove trans identity through brain scans? Should we include nonbinary folks in women-only spaces? CW: mention of police brutality @ 3:30 Happy Pride, babiesssss! Send us your comments, questions, and feelings at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. Find Naseem on Twitter (@jamsternazzy) and support their work on Patreon. Don’t forget to check out their recommended articles, “The Lab Is Not Neutral” and “What Does Your Story Add To The Conversation.” We greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. Donate $5+ to receive stickers in the mail! Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with Riley J. Dennis (she/they), best known for her YouTube videos about LGBTQ+ subjects and intersectional feminism. Topics include: Can you be trans without dysphoria? Is it transphobic to have a genital preference or refuse to date trans folks? Is it possible to be nonbinary, a trans woman, and a lesbian? Being a trans YouTuber who doesn’t make transition videos—and why that’s so rare. Plus: Why you should never read the comments on Riley’s videos. Read/watch/hear more about our This Week in Gender topic by searching “Stonewall Riots.” Have fun! Also, here’s Krista Burton’s NYT opinion piece about pride. Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. Support Riley on Patreon here. We also greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. (Donate $5+ to receive stickers in the mail!) Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck answers listener questions with filmmaker and activist Z Griffler (they/them). Topics include: Misgendering yourself Using they/them pronouns in solidarity Should nonbinary people apply for “women’s” scholarships? Is it possible to be nonbinary and a trans woman? What the hell does femme mean?! “Why the Popular Phrase “Women and Femmes” Makes No Sense” “Women and Femmes Unite” (counterpoint) Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here. Read about FOSTA/SESTA here and here, visit survivorsagainstsesta.org, and donate money here. Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We always appreciate donations at patreon.com/gender or PayPal or Cash App. If you donate $5 or more by April 30, we'll send you stickers and an extra surprise. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Additional music: Night Owl by Broke For Free Sponsors: YOU! Thank you SO much!

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with activist AC Dumlao (they/them), the founder of Call Me They and @menswearselfcare. Topics include: Celebrating “genderFULL fashion” as self-care. Shifting your gender presentation to try to appeal to folks you’re dating (yikes!). Writing an open letter to cis folks angrily sharing news of the transgender military ban. The importance of TLDEF’s free legal name change services. Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here. (This one felt weird because I can't tell if it's really cool or not? Help!)  Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We always appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. During the month of April, if you donate $5 or more, we'll send you a bunch of stickers and a special limited-time-only surprise. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with Kirby Conrod (they/them), a PhD candidate in linguistics. Among other subjects, Kirby specifically studies the use of they/them pronouns.  Topics include: Tips for folks who struggle with they/them pronouns. Reasons why those folks might be struggling more than other people. Being a nonbinary person in academia. Coming into a nonbinary identity in Taiwan. What is syntax?!? Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here and here. Read Kirby’s Medium post: “How to do the absolute minimum (with pronouns)”. Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We always appreciate donations at patreon.com/gender or PayPal or Cash App. If you donate $5 or more, we'll send you stickers and an extra surprise. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck hands the airwaves over to a series of other LGBTQ storytellers. In Act I, Joanna Cifredo (she/her) and Rebecca Kling (she/her) unpack pretty privilege—and how it intersects with passing privilege—on the very excellent Trans Specific Partnership Podcast. In Act II, Vassar student Yasemin Smallens (she/her) interviews Asher Johnson (he/him), a transmasculine student who attends a historically women’s college. Find the Trans Specific Partnership on iTunes, Soundcloud, Twitter and Instagram. Find Yasemin Smallens on Soundcloud. Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here and here and here. Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We always appreciate donations at patreon.com/gender or PayPal or Cash App. If you donate $7 or more, we'll send you a surprise. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: Babe Wax! Donate to WaxFund, please! 

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with Kevin Cook (he/him), better known as the glamorous Poison Waters (she/her). One of Portland’s most beloved event hosts, Poison is a co-host at the legendary Darcelle XV Showplace. Topics include: Distinguishing between trans women and (male) drag queens. Joining the drag scene as a gay black man in the late 1980s. Living as one person with two identities, two presentations, and two sets of pronouns. Watching LGBTQ visibility and acceptance evolve over the last three decades. Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here. Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We are grateful for donations at patreon.com/gender or PayPal or Cash App. If you donate $7 or more, we'll send you a surprise. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: Babe Wax! Donate to WaxFund, please! 

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with Kaig Lightner (he/him), the founder of both Portland Community Football Club and Breaking the Gender Binary Consulting. Topics include: Coming out as trans to young soccer players—and having the resulting video go viral. Fighting sexism and harmful gender roles in kids’ sports. Not feeling comfortable in the “middle space” of gender, despite feeling internally genderless. Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here. Find Tuck on last week’s episode of Vegan Warrior Princesses Attack. Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We always appreciate donations at patreon.com/gender or PayPal or Cash App. If you donate $7 or more, we'll send you a surprise. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: Babe Wax! Donate to WaxFund, please! 

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with LaTisha “Tish” Rico (she/they). LaTisha is Diné (Navajo) and originally from Na' Neelzhin (Torreon, New Mexico). They identify as an Indigenous feminist and vegan straight edge.   Topics include: Decolonizing gender Growing up in a matriarchy Living in a culture with 4+ genders Working with youth to unlearn toxic masculinity How “the future is nonbinary” erases Indigenous history You can find Tish through No! to Rape Culture and their new band, With War. Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here. Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter @gendereveal. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We also have a new reward for folks who pledge $7 or more at patreon.com/gender. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: Gladrags and Open Hand Health— let them know we sent you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with Mads Ambrose (they/them), founder of body-positive, all-gender waxing salon Babe Wax. Topics include: Why waxing can be lifesaving for some trans folks. Transphobia at mainstream waxing salons. The struggle of being femme and genderqueer (in Oklahoma circa 2010). Playing with gender as a feminine drag king. What even is a woman? Donate to WaxFund here. Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here. Find Tuck on last week’s episode of Feminist Killjoys, PhD and Two Broads Talking Politics. Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter @gendereveal. You can also submit questions anonymously here. And of course, we always appreciate donations at patreon.com/gender or PayPal or Cash App. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: Gladrags and Open Hand Health— let them know we sent you!

In this week’s episode, we speak with Soleil Ho (she/her), a writer, chef, and host of two fantastically intersectional podcasts: Popaganda and Racist Sandwich. Topics include: The privileges of giving off “non-binary, gay vibes” as a female chef Fighting against sexual harassment at your favorite restaurant Creating a queer Vietnamese-American community Claiming gayness while in a heterosexual marriage Read more about our This Week in Gender topics here and here. Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter @gendereveal. You can also submit questions anonymously here. And of course, we always appreciate donations at patreon.com/gender or PayPal or Cash App.  Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: Gladrags and Open Hand Health— let them know we sent you!

In this week’s episode, we speak with cartoonist and generally hilarious person Joey Alison Sayers (she/her). (CW: depression, suicidality, substance abuse @ 30-38 min) Topics include: Brain changes after transitioning Getting called “sir” at the deli Depression and antidepressant stigma Coming out to coworkers through comics Talking to the youth! (Spoiler: the youth are lucky jerks.) Plus, we made this tiny art thing out of an inspiring quote from this interview: Check it out! Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here.  Find Joey Alison Sayers at her website or on Twitter (@joeyalison). Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter @gendereveal. You can also submit questions anonymously here. And of course, we always appreciate donations at patreon.com/gender or PayPal or Cash App. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: Gladrags and Open Hand Health— let them know we sent you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck answers listener questions with filmmaker and activist Z Griffler (they/them). Topics include: Personal gender identity vs. societal gender roles Trans folks with internalized transphobia Non-binary parenting Can a non-binary person mansplain? Read more about our This Week in Gender topics here and here. Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter @gendereveal. You can also submit questions anonymously here. And of course, we always appreciate donations at patreon.com/gender or PayPal or Cash App. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: Gladrags and Open Hand Health— let them know we sent you!

In this week's episode, we speak with Leila and Haile and Maya Vivas, co-directors of Ori Gallery. Ori is a brand new gallery that seeks to amplify the voices of trans and queer artists of color in Portland, Oregon. (CW: assault at 9:00 and 33:00) Topics include: Queerness and Afro-Queerness as a gender, sexual, and political identity Racism and transphobia in the medical industrial complex Navigating queer spaces as a Black, trans, disabled human Coming into a non-binary identity through an African identity Creating a truly accessible art gallery Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here and here. Find Ori Gallery at oriartgallery.com and on Instagram. Find Leila Haile at leilahaile.com, and Maya Vivas at mayavivas.com. Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter @gendereveal. And of course, we always appreciate donations at patreon.com/gender or PayPal or Cash App. Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderSponsors: Gladrags (coupon code: “GENDER”) and Tomboy

In this week's episode, we speak with Eden Rohatensky (they/them), a programmer, writer, and musician (Also Also Also, Eden the Cat, Orphan Mothers, Rotten Spooky). (CW: mentions of harassment, assault, and suicidality.) Topics include: Adding a non-binary voice to the #MeToo movement The difficulties of coming out as non-binary in other languages How coming out helped Eden recognize their privilege Navigating the tech industry as a non-straight-white-dude Is gender a spooky ghost? Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here. Find Eden on Twitter, Medium, and Patreon @edenthecat. Don’t forget to listen to Feminist Killjoys, PhD, and Flex Your Heart Radio! Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter @gendereveal. And of course, we always appreciate donations at patreon.com/gender or PayPal or Cash App. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: Gladrags (coupon code: “GENDER”) and TomboyX (coupon code: “TOMBOYS”)

Hey there, gender detectives! In this week's episode, we speak to Carlos the Rollerblader (they/them), a stand-up comic, advice hotline creator, DJ, painter, community organizer, event host, and Portland icon. Topics include: How queerness "softens the blow of being read as a Black man" by white Portlanders Learning about gender roles from a supermodel/professional bowler Using queerness to challenge toxic masculinity Aspiring to be a walking decoupage Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here. Find Carlos on Instagram @carloscollective, or on Facebook at Carlos the Rollerblader.  Questions? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter @gendereveal, and we’ll answer on the show as soon as possible. And of course, we always appreciate donations at patreon.com/gender or PayPal or Cash App. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: Gladrags (coupon code: “GENDER”) and TomboyX (coupon code: “TOMBOYS”)