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Lisa Wool-Rim Sjöblom, author of the stunning graphic memoir called Palimpsest: Documents From a Korean Adoption is our guest. She shares some of her story with us and then we dive into a conversation about racism, coming out of the adoption fog, what activism means to Lisa, and how she found her voice. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Lisa Wool-Rim Sjöblom: Instagram | woolrim.wordpress.com | www.patreon.com/woolrim Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Cathy Caputo is our first guest of the new year and she has quite a surprising story, so I’m not going to spoil anything here. We talk about closed adoption, grief and loss, and what it’s for meant for Cathy to start an in-person adoptee community. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Cathy Caputo: Instagram | Facebook Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Today the creator of Not Your Orphan is sharing their story with us, Blake Gibbins is here! Blake and I talk about what happened three years ago to kick him out of the fog, we discuss grief and some losses Blake experienced earlier this year, and we move into a discussion about activism, cognitive dissonance and what it means to be queer and an adoptee. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Blake Gibbbins: Not Your Orphan on YouTube | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Lilly Schmaltz is with us today, you may know her as Adoptee Lilly on YouTube. Lilly shares her story of what pulled her into adoptee advocacy and why she’s so adamant about pushing back against the saviour narrative. We also get into some deeply personal topics including how her broken engagement brought up her abandonment all over again and what she does to pursue healing. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Lilly Schmaltz: YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | lfsmusings.com Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

The holiday season is here and some of us could really use the support. In this episode, we ask one of our favourite adoptee therapists, Lesli A. Johnson, MFT, your questions about how to navigate the holidays! We collected all your DMs, emails, and comments and I peppered Lesli with scenarios about gift-giving, family gatherings, how to create our own traditions when estranged…get ready to have some practical takeaways from this episode. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Lesli A. Johnson, MFT: www.askadoption.com | www.yourmindfulbrain.com | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Stephanie Tait shares her story of being adopted from foster care, her childhood growing up in a conservative evangelical family, and navigating secondary rejection via ghosting by her birth mother. We also dive into some challenging questions surrounding the complexity of adoption and the church and how we can combat that traditional white saviour narrative. Full Show Notes Here Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

It is our honour to welcome Deanna Shrodes to the podcast. Deanna and I talk about her decades-long reunion with her biological mother and her mother’s heartbreaking promise to take her birthfather’s name to the grave. We hear about her lengthy DNA search and the challenging feelings that come along with more questions than answers. Deanna is a pastor and so, of course, we touch on adoption and the church and the literal ways Deanna is demonstrating what family preservation looks like. Full Show Notes Here Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

We are back with Lesli A. Johnson, MFT! In this Healing Series episode, we are examining the concept of reunion. Why did “they” pick 18 as the age for when adoptees are supposedly ready to reunite or have contact? What does navigating contact look like in a semi-open adoption as a child or teenager? As we reflect back on our own closed adoptions, what would have been more helpful for us? Lesli also takes us behind the curtain and shares some themes that she sees her clients expressing about reunion. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Lesli A. Johnson, MFT: www.askadoption.com | www.yourmindfulbrain.com | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

A mashup of true crime and disenfranchised grief? Yes! We are learning about adoptee parricide from Dr. Tracy Carlis, a clinical psychologist who I’ve had the absolute honour of learning from in-person. In this episode, Dr. Carlis shares her personal story of search and reunion, including some exciting recent DNA search updates. Then we shift the conversation to her work in forensic psychology and she teaches us what we can glean from some incredibly tragic situations of adoptee parricide. TW: We are going to discuss violence graphically at a few points during this episode, including a mention of sexual violence. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Dr. Tracy Carlis: drtracylcarlis.com | Facebook Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Sue Green, a psychologist from Australia who was actively involved in the landmark Victorian Adoption Act of 1984 shares her personal story with us. We dig into what lead her to become an adoptee advocate, who now teaches other therapists and mental health professionals how to truly be adoptee-competent in working with our loss and trauma. We also touch on some interesting facts about adoption in Australia that will likely surprise you. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Dr. Sue Green: vanish.org.au | Facebook Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Dear Adoption, is joining up with Adoptees On again today! Reshma McClintock, the founder of Dear Adoption, is back and she brought us another letter that we are sure most adopted people will relate to. We also talk about a recent trip to Washington, DC that Reshma was a part of, where for the first time adult adoptee voices were invited and represented in the adoption conversation. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Reshma McClintock: Instagram | Facebook | reshmamcclintock.com | Calcutta is My Mother | Dear Adoption, Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Mary O'Rourke shares the difficult news she received in her non-identifying information at age 21. We discuss her reunion, the added complexity of coming out twice as queer, and how she ended up finding a grief support group and an adoption-competent therapist.

Liz shares about the shift her life took in her late thirties as she started to examine her adoption more closely. We talk about how Liz believes we can reveal who we truly are through writing, and how building our own narrative instead of accepting the ones that are placed on us can bring about tremendous growth. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Liz DeBetta: www.lizdebetta.com Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

You may remember Jemma’s first appearance on the podcast where her biological mother adopted Jemma back. Well, things have changed quite a bit from that happy ending. Jemma felt it was crucial for adoptees to know the ups and downs that reunion can bring over the years. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Jemma Sullivan Twitter | Facebook Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Revisiting a fave episode... next week we have an update from Jemma! Can you really be adopted back into your family of origin? Today I get to introduce you to Jemma Sullivan, and she shares some incredibly painful realities of having a narcissistic adoptive parent, it’s not all gloom and doom though - I promise you need to wait to hear what happens at the beginning of Jemma’s new chapter with her first mother. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Revisiting another fave Healing Series episode. Adoptees often struggle in intimate-partner relationships because we had our trust broken at a very early age. In this episode of the healing series, Marta Drachenberg, LMHC, and Haley discuss some personal examples of relationship issues that seem to keep repeating themselves. Marta teaches us what to look out for, how attachment styles affect our relationships, and how some disagreements with our partners can actually be caused by adoption-issues in disguise. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Marta Drachenberg, LMHC: marta.drachenberg [at] gmail [dot] com | http://martadrachenberglmhc.com/ Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Revisiting a fave Healing Series episode today! Marta Drachenberg, LMHC, teaches us about the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model, something she feels is particularly effective for adoptees. Marta explains that our best advocate and healer is found within ourselves! IFS helps us to discover the 8 Cs that come with self-leadership: calm, creativity, compassion, curiosity, courage, clarity, connectedness, and confidence. If traditional talk therapy has not been working for you, Internal Family Systems may be a good fit. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Marta Drachenberg, LMHC: marta.drachenberg [at] gmail [dot] com | http://martadrachenberglmhc.com/ Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Revisiting a fave episode from 2018. Listen in to an incredibly intimate conversation between Janet Weinreich-Keall and both of her fathers, Emil Weinreich, and Gordon Keall. We discuss Emil’s shock of discovering he was a father to an adult daughter, how Gordon embraced Emil with open arms, and the inspiring relationship they’ve all built together. We also ponder, where are all the fathers? Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Janet Weinreich-Keall: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook | janetweinreichkeall.com Anne Heffron: Beyond Adoption: You Facebook | Twitter | Facebook | Instagram 1 and 2! | Email: anneheffron(at)gmail(dot)com | anneheffron.com Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Revisiting a favourite episode from 2018! Listen as Janet Weinreich-Keall shares how she had to rely on the media and complete strangers to help her unravel the largest known case of serial abandonment in the world. We discuss the emotional toll 21 years of searching took on her, how painful it was to make phone calls over and over that would forever change people’s lives, and how one first name would unlock the rest of her story. This is both a heartbreaking and incredibly intimate episode with a hope-filled twist! Next week Janet will be back with two special guests and we’ll get to hear the rest of her story in part two of our finale! Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Janet Weinreich-Keall: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook | janetweinreichkeall.com Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connec

Today Janet Nordine, MS, LMFT is back to address grief. This time she is teaching us about experiencing grief as an adult adoptee. Have you lost a loved one recently? Revisiting grief as an adult adoptee is a totally different ballgame. We also discuss what can happen to us if we stuff down our feelings instead of processing them.