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Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Today we are going to look at a reunion between a mother and daughter, and how their guiding principles have helped build a strong and healthy connection over the past three years. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Marni Metzler Hall: Facebook To connect with Karen you can send Marni a message on Facebook and she’ll connect you via email Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group What happens when you are so hopeful about connecting with your first mother but then you discover they’re already gone? Today Donna shares her story of searching for her birth family and what happens when she finds out some very sobering details of her birth mother’s life. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Donna: Email adoptee3 [at] gmail [dot] com Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Pam Greenstone, MA, LPC teaches us how to find a therapy group in our area. Pam gives us some ideas for finding out if the group therapist is adoption-competent, what to do if they aren’t, and tips for finding a safe group to express your adoptee-related concerns. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Pam Greenstone, MA, LPC: www.pgreenstonetherapy.com | email pamgreenstone (at) me (dot) com Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Pam Greenstone, MA, LPC teaches us what group therapy is all about. You won’t believe the amazing list of therapeutic factors Pam explains come from healing in community. We also learn about why group therapy can be so beneficial for adoptees specifically. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Pam Greenstone, MA, LPC: www.pgreenstonetherapy.com | email pamgreenstone (at) me (dot) com Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Today we are exploring another mother and daughter relationship. Hea was adopted from Korea but didn’t really start exploring her Korean heritage until her daughter Emma started getting curious. Hea shares about how her relationship with Emma spurred them both to process what being adopted really means. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Hea Ryun Garza: Instagram | Facebook Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Dr. Julie Lopez, PhD, LICSW teaches us about Brainspotting. I know, it sounds a little bit woo woo…how on earth is our eye position related to our emotional and psychological brain mapping? Listen and you’ll know what to expect when you try out this powerful trauma-sensitive approach. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Dr. Julie Lopez: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook | LinkedIn | www.vivapartnership.com | resilientbrainproject.com Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Today we are going to get to know Carrie Anspach, as she shares with us about her experience of early motherhood. We talk about her pregnancy and birth experience, how she experienced a relationship with her daughter before she even arrived, and how becoming a mother dramatically changed her understanding of being an adopted person in this world. Full Show Notes Here Recommended Resources The Pain of Infertility and Why I Won’t Adopt by JS Lee and Keurium by JS Lee Andrea Joyce Heimer artist Centering in Pottery, Poetry, and the Person by M.C. Richards Parenting As Adoptees by Adam Chau and Kevin Ost-Vollmers Connect With Us Carrie Anspach: Facebook | dirtygirlpottery.wordpress.com Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

How often have we joked about how expensive therapy is? What do we do when we’re overwhelmed, feeling lost and have limited resources? Today Dr. Julie Lopez, PhD, LICSW tells us about her new initiative, The Resilient Brain Project. Where else can you find a comprehensive library of free apps, videos, playlists, research, and more that have been vetted by expert adoption-competent mental health providers? Listen in as Dr. Julie gives us an overview of what you can find for free over at The Resilient Brain Project. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Dr. Julie Lopez: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook | LinkedIn | www.vivapartnership.com | resilientbrainproject.com Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Alice shares her experiences of secrets in an in-family adoption and also how her recent reunion with her biological father alerted her to some of the damaging ways her adoptive mother behaved. Alice and I talk about signs of narcissism and she walks us through some real-life examples of how this behaviour showed up in her life, and what she’s done to walk away from the toxicity. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Alice: Send a note to the Adoptees On page and I will forward it on Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Adoptees often struggle in intimate-partner relationships because we had our trust broken at a very early age. In this episode of the healing series, Marta Drachenberg, LMHC, and Haley discuss some personal examples of relationship issues that seem to keep repeating themselves. Marta teaches us what to look out for, how attachment styles affect our relationships, and how some disagreements with our partners can actually be caused by adoption-issues in disguise. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Marta Drachenberg, LMHC: marta.drachenberg [at] gmail [dot] com | http://martadrachenberglmhc.com/ Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Today we talk about what happens when two adopted people get married to each other. Stephani is candid with us about some of what triggers her and her husband, and how that can escalate quickly. She also shares about how being in Internal Family Systems therapy together has been a game-changer for their relationship. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Stephani Harris: Facebook Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Marta Drachenberg, LMHC, teaches us about the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model, something she feels is particularly effective for adoptees. Marta explains that our best advocate and healer is found within ourselves! IFS helps us to discover the 8 Cs that come with self-leadership: calm, creativity, compassion, curiosity, courage, clarity, connectedness, and confidence. If traditional talk therapy has not been working for you, Internal Family Systems may be a good fit. Full Show Notes Here   Connect With Us Marta Drachenberg: marta.drachenberg [at] gmail [dot] com | http://martadrachenberglmhc.com/ Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

It’s an honour to bring you this mother/daughter duo, Fleurette and Amy, for an in-depth view of a long-term reunion. We talk about the unusual circumstances surrounding Amy’s adoption, the disappointment they both felt after their first official in-person meeting, how bringing grandkids into the equation shifted their relationship, and how many years it took them before they felt their reunion relationship was “normal”. Spoiler alert - it was a loooong time. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Amy Crossland: Instagram | Facebook | amynicrn [at] gmail [dot] com Fleurette Gallais: Facebook | ffg.gallais [at] gmail [dot] com Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Rebekah Henson and Mary Anna King give us an insider’s view of their reunion as two of seven siblings separated by adoption. Expect lots of laughter as we get invited into some inside jokes, and they share practical examples of how they maintain their relationships with each other even while living in seven different states across the country. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Rebekah Henson: Twitter | Instagram | Medium Mary Anna King: Twitter | maryannaking.com Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Listener Meet-Up | Write or Die Class on May 20, 2018 Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Today you are invited into a conversation between Anne Heffron and her ex-husband Ryan Iwanaga. They tell us about their marriage, the things that pulled them apart, and we talk about what they’ve done since their divorce in order to co-parent well and have a peaceful relationship as friends. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Anne Heffron: Twitter | Facebook | Instagram 1 and 2! | Email: anneheffron(at)gmail(dot)com | anneheffron.com Ryan Iwanaga: Facebook Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Listener Meet-Up | Write or Die Class on May 20, 2018 Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

How many times have you thought, “I’m a mistake, I don’t belong here”? Pamela Cordano, MFT, tells us about how she first encountered MeaningWork and how it can help us access inspiration and joy in our lives. If you’ve ever felt disconnected, alone, or stuck, this conversation will inspire you to take a look at your life with a different lens. Pam teaches us about Viktor Frankl’s work and how it can align perfectly with an adoptee looking to build resilience and strength. Find full show notes here! Connect With Us Pamela Cordano, MFT: www.pamelacordanomft.com | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook | Email pcordano(at)comcast(dot)net for info on the Adoptee Healing Retreat or the Pilgrimage for Women Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Listener Meet-Up | Write or Die Class on May 20, 2018 Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly

Genetic Sexual Attraction (GSA) can be a controversial and uncomfortable subject to broach, but we are exploring the topic today. Today Jane shares her personal experience of a GSA relationship with a sibling and Leslie Pate Mackinnon, LCSW brings her professional expertise to the topic. Some estimates are up to half of all adoptees in reunion feel some sort of attraction to a genetic family member, which Leslie believes is likely a search for attachment. We recommend where to go for support and we try to examine GSA in a safe way, without blame or shame. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook   Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube Listener Meet-Up | Write or Die Class on May 20, 2018 Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

What do you do when you get triggered? Pamela Cordano, MFT gives us a few simple, yet powerful tools to stock in our triggered triage kit. This is a must-listen for anyone who has experienced the intensity of a triggering moment and felt helpless and stuck in overwhelm.  Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Pamela Cordano, MFT: www.pamelacordanomft.com | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook | Email pcordano(at)comcast(dot)net for info on the Adoptee Healing Retreat or the Pilgrimage for Women Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook  Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube  Listener Meet-Up | Write or Die Class on May 20, 2018  Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group  Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail

Doug Umberger has spent hours and hours interviewing adoptees to find out how digital media has impacted their search and eventually their relationships with biological families. He shares his personal journey of searching for his birthmother through digital media channels, and how ultimately what convinced him to press pause on his search for now. Doug recounts a few of his participants’ experiences for us, and I want you to listen with me for both the benefits that relationships via digital connections have brought and also some of the relational pitfalls. Full Show Notes Here   Connect With Us Doug Umberger: Twitter | Instagram | dougumberger.tumblr.com Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook   Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube   Listener Meet-Up | Write or Die Class on May 20, 2018   Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group   Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Rec

Paige Adams Strickland shares with us about the complexity of building relationships in the workplace as an adopted person. Many years into her career, Paige has a unique vantage point to give us an overview of what it was like thirty years ago if you even broached the subject of adoption reunion with a colleague - all the way to present day and what it’s like for her now. We talk jobs, the difficulties some of us have building friendships and the extra layer of feeling inadequate that some of us contend with daily. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Paige Adams Strickland: Twitter | Instagram | Personal Facebook | Facebook Page | Blog Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook   Listener Meet-Up | Write or Die Class on May 20, 2018   Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Google Play | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher | YouTube   Support Adoptees On One Time Donation | Monthly | Secret Facebook Group   Connect Monthly Newsletter | Send a Note or Record a Voicemail